I don't get it.....If your a lesbian wouldn't you be attracted to the feminie look?....I mean if you dated a girl that kinda looks like a guy why don't you just date a real guy?.....I have always wondered this....not trying to offend anyone.
2006-12-02 19:28:05 · 10 answers · asked by surfmerrick24 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Also in "my" experiences....lesbians tend to be somewhat rude to males and almost defensive as seen in one of the comments below....I respect that they are gay so why can't they be friendly with males?...Now this is speaking from my general experience and doesn't mean every lesbian is like this.
2006-12-02 21:08:09 · update #1
the lesbian dont like a guy for the fact that itz a person wid a snake down below she wants somethin wid a cave instead.....hehe
2006-12-02 19:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by answer man 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've answered this question so many times and in such full detail that I think I could probably type the question in my sleep. And I have no idea why you would ask it- am I the only one who gets "here are some similar resolved questions" suggested to me when I try to ask one? Because this one has been asked a gazillion times. But, anyways, here's my answer in brief, short form:
You already answered your question: attracted to the girl side. That's the definition of a lesbian- a woman who is attracted to a woman. I think you're mixing up sex and gender. Sex is what happens to be between the legs, on the chest- your biological sex. Gender is how you look and act everywhere else. So some lesbians like a girly girl, and others like a manly woman. The point of the matter is that it IS a woman. Masculinity on a woman is not the same as masculinity on a man. It's not just how they look, but knowing that it's a woman they are dating, and, moreover, a person who has the sort of genitals they like. Men, you see, don't have what lesbians like- namely, breasts and vaginas. Whether they come with boyish, masculine, manly faces and dress doesn't matter- they are just a different brand of woman, that's all.
Hope that's answered your question!
2006-12-02 20:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's get this one clear - who defines the rules of exactly what type of person (as in look) you 'should' be attracted to? Just because I find someone ugly doesn't mean someone else might not find that person ugly. Further to this there will always be 'butch' lesbians/'fem' lesbians because a) that's the way some people (very rarely the people directly) choose to categorise and discriminate and b) That is just some of the many differences in people! Some people are 'tomboys' some people are 'girlie girls' it's all words. Yeah, there might be clever genetic or psychological reasoning, but it doesn't really matter people are people and they will be different. Just because we see a perceived stereotype doesn't mean to say that stereotype applies to that individual. If it does so what, it doesn't mean all lesbians are the same anymore than all gay men or straight men/women.
I think we all need ot get out of the rut of generalising and assuming things about people or perceived 'types' of people and just start accepting people for who they are, rather than who we'd have them be!
2006-12-02 20:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by waggy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some believe that lesbians have higher levels of androgen than straight women, which would biologically masculinize them. Others believe tomboys were treated more like one of the guys in childhood, and thus act more masculine and attracted to women, but as women still are attracted to masculinity. Others still believe that lesbians subconciously pick up the masculine lesbian stereotype from society and express it.
What do I believe? I believe they feel more comfortable in a masculine persona, whatever the underlying reason may be, and that's enough for me.
2006-12-03 00:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a standard, stereotypical response, generally made by men who can't believe there are women out there who don't want them.
Not you, question asker. I appreciate that you just want to know. So, as best as I can explain -
There is no rule for who you "should" be attracted to in the world of Lesbianism, or in the world at large for that matter. Feminine, masculine, androgynous, whatever. You can't help what or who you're attracted to....but remember:
'Manly' women are NOT merely imitation men!!!
2006-12-02 19:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you why...I'll speak for myself. I am a really strong woman... it is subconscious. They are just being themselves. That would be like asking why a guy whos dressed like an obvious male acts womanly...you know the wimpster variety. People are all beautiful in their own way. Some of those manly woman can't help but manifest their powerful potential..in our culture...Men and woman like me...Decent people...treat me with respect. So why would I care if some guy feels threatened by my "mannish"ness. Thats his issue. Its a more obvious move to be powerful in shoes where you can actually walk
2006-12-06 04:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by healerdeal2005 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey it doesn't matter what someone dresses like. It matters what is in their heart. I am typically femme. I have dated both butch women and femme. I am drawn more to butch women cuz of how I grew up. I lived in a small town. My g/f feels more comf. butch, but she does dress femme once in a while and it doesn't matter either way for me. That's not why I love her.
BAMN!
2006-12-02 20:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by Namaste 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did Lisa-Marie Presley marry Michael Jackson?
Some mysteries we will never know.
2006-12-02 20:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im just attracted to girls with short hair, and besides, girls look hot in guys clothes...
2006-12-02 19:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by Chef Shortie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they are dopey
2006-12-02 20:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋