See me and my boyfriend been dating for a month now and he and me been talking about sex and i think hes ready for it because he told me but non of us ever had done it before so its our first time and i really dont know if should go for it or just forget it. THX Oh yeah im 18 and hes 19 lol
2006-12-02 18:57:27 · 14 answers · asked by Tony S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Definitely! Awesome sex is one of the great privileges of being gay... *smiles* If you are virgins, then... you should still wear a condom anyway. You've really got to be safe... ALWAYS. And remember lots of lube. lol
2006-12-02 19:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't like to think I'm a prude, although reading other people's answers make me think I am. In my opinion, one month is far, far too soon to be thinking about sex.
Scratch that. It's natural to think about sex the minute you lay eyes on one another. It's happened to me just that way.
However, I do think that one month is far, far to soon to be having sex. It has nothing to do with your age (although that can be a factor), but rather the fact that I don't think anyone has established a strong, caring bond within a month's time. You establish lust and infatuation, possibly friendship and even the burgeoning blossom of love, but you haven't gotton past that to the great stuff. And in my opinion, you shouldn't do the good stuff (sex) until you have the great stuff (love). Being in love is what makes sex so special; otherwise, it's just getting off with a fun partner, but little emotional connection. And moreover, you want to be with someone committed to you, and you to them- a relationship that sex consumates, and not the other way around.
That's just my two cents. Even if you decide to go for it, give it a little more time- maybe a month or two. And of course, this can be a great way to test your boyfriend- if he cares for you, no pressure will be put on, and he'll wait patiently. If not . . . well, make of that what you will. And always be careful (condoms and lube!) and take care of the people you bed, physically and especially emotionally.
2006-12-03 05:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you are 18, it seems to me you have been making the right decision with regards to having sex already.
making love, as some people call it, should be reserved for that time in your life when the "partner" you have chosen is the person whom you will consider as the 'soul mate' for the rest of your life.
I kid you not. No guy really is comfortable marrying a girl who could not have waited for the "right man".
Keep your scruples and your ways. Sex is not an animal act, rather the reward between two people that sincerely love and respect one another, and wish to spent their life together.
This usually means marriage. To prove ones love for the other is not; agreeing to sex, rather it is a commitment of friendship, understanding, togetherness,having common goals and dreams, feeling good about been together, and plan for life together.
Stay well, be safe, God bless
2006-12-03 03:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by dorianalways 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People think the first time will be something special, but really, it's mainly just pain and awkwardness. Don't go in with high expectations, just that you and your partner will bring your relationship to the next level and enjoy each other.
He may very well be ready, but you need to find out if you are. if you're even the slightest bit uncomfortable, keep waiting. If he really cares about you at all, he'll wait. Just keep waiting until you feel ready.
If you need actual advice, there's plenty of it on the internet. Just google it. :-)
2006-12-03 08:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mac181 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all have to have sex at sometime, it's really no big deal. I'm sure you have an idea of what it's all about and what you want to give/take from your first experience. Don't expect too much, you're both virgins so take it slowly - there's no need to experience all the joy of sex in 1 night of clumsy fumbling (and believe me it will be), there's plenty of time to work out what you both enjoy from each other. Be prepared to laugh with each other, sex is fun even the first time. Enjoy.
2006-12-04 09:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by paul h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!
You say you don't know if you should do it ...........that's doubt that is your spirit telling you, you are not ready. Follow your spirit that is the best you can do. A month is way to early anyway and why do you want to give yourself up to someone who may not be your one and only. He just wants it now and is ready for it now as you said so let him be ready. If he truly cares for you he will wait for you to be ready and sure of what you are doing. 18 is so young and sex is so meaningless and barren if given to just anyone,,,,,,,reconsider and stick with your spirit. You wont be any worse off by doing so that's for sure. If you do have sex with him and regret it later well then you will be worse off
2006-12-03 06:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats a very personal decision and one YOU should make. it's a step that can never be taken back. it depends on what you want it to be, if you just want to have sex, then do it. if you want it to be special something to remember for the rest of your life, make sure this is someone you love. look to your heart therin lies the answer.
2006-12-03 06:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Take it easy at first, explore everything your first time has to offer. Have fun. Enjoy yourself.
2006-12-03 03:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by bosco6159 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
forget the rubber add on the lub!!! waste like 5 gallons if u gotta!
2006-12-03 03:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by answer man 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just go for it...do whatever feels good. be safe.
2006-12-03 03:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋