I have been married since 2 years and my husband doesn't love me and he had an affair in past after marriage too,which was there before our engagement.Now i was away from last 9 month from him,i didn't felt like talking to him and neither i was eager to be in contact with.Now he came back to me and wants this relationship to work,but i don't feel love or any feeling for him.but my heart want this relationship to work.As he is soory for his behaviour,but I am blank from inside.i don't feel anything .
2006-12-02 18:36:24 · 17 answers · asked by Lonely_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to work at that. love is what you make it. too many people want an easy marriage. thats why the divorce rate is so high. love is tough, but the most rewarding thing is when you work through the hard times.
2006-12-02 18:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by emustudent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way your marriage will work out at this point is to start over. Nine months is a long time to be away from one another. You have to concentrate on starting from the beginning, instead of trying to rekindle old feelings that no longer exist. Start out slowly by dating, and get to know each other again. After dating for a period of time, you will then know if you want to begin a new relationship together. Good luck to you both! Remember, not all loves are meant to last a lifetime, nor are they always good or healthy for us. Take things slowly and take care of yourself.
2006-12-03 03:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we want relationships to work that are not good for us. It is time to move on. You have to look out for you and your happiness. He probably doesn't have anyone right now, but soon as a woman show some interest he will be doing the same thing. If you truly feel you need to be a part of him, make him a distant friend.
Good luck
2006-12-03 02:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same feelings happened to me when I moved out of my ex-boyfriends apartment. He kept wanting the relationship to work but I felt nothing there. I wasn't concerned about having/fixing the relationship becasue I was tired of all his lies and lame excuses that he kept saying he was so sorry for when he would get caught yet continued to do. I honestly think you should follow your heart. If you don't feel love there than don't do it for him...I learned that the hard way. I stuck around in the relationship because I felt sorry for him but once I finally severed all ties I felt so much better about myself and my life. It allowed me to have the change I was so desperately seeking. All the best and remember you will never change anyone but yourself so go with your heart and the rest will fall into place.
2006-12-03 02:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by twisted_cherry85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time in a relationship-especially a marriage where you can do something to prolong the agony even more, like have children. If you don't feel anything for him now, I doubt those feelings will change or get any better, as it seems that you're hoping for. Good luck!
2006-12-03 02:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by mybootyisthatbig79 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like the relationship is worth saving.... But the choice is really yours.
Can you guys repair the relationship----? And can you actually live with the fact that he cheated on you? And that he will probably do it again especially if he's done it to another woman before you.
Think about it. :o)
2006-12-03 02:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship takes a whole lot of heart and if yours isn't in it, don't bother trying. If there's no love there neither is anything else.
2006-12-03 02:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by southsidedrp187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope you shouldn't stay. If he isn't doing anything for you emotionally but you just want to stay to have a relationship, that's not healthy. Leave him alone, heal by yourself, and then work on a relationship with someone who will make you happy. You deserve it!
2006-12-03 02:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by Meeeeee! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your answering your own question. If you don't feel anything for him then move on. What are you going to do, force love? I don't think so. Make yourself happy and be with someone who does the same...
2006-12-03 02:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by GOODGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if u don't feel the chemistry anymore, just leave him for the better or worse.....it's more hurtful to live in this relationship when the feelings have died....but beware, sometimes, u're just temporary feeling out of love.......try to talk to him more, be with him n' make love with him.....does the feelings come back??? then, decide...good luck
2006-12-03 02:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by Marijuana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋