I am fat but was once thin and beautiful. How do I find a guy who will love me for what I am? I am very out going and not shy. I love sports as does my Son.
I have been divorced for 7 years but have not dated since then. How do I find a male partner where I can not be embarrassed of my weight? I was thin and beautiful 5 years ago) I am a female, age 44 now and I am self conscience) how do I find a partner where I can find someone whom I can be my self with and trust with my 8 year old Son? (In Texas) "Please don't respond to “Your are fat just give up"
2006-12-02 17:58:29 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would like to email the responses I have gotten to email them about advise but I do not have a phase number that allows me to. my email is lperiodbperiod@peoplepc.com Please reply. Thank you
2006-12-02 18:31:28 · update #1
Sometimes there are medical reasons for obesity and some people just can't change the way they look. First, you have to accept yourself and realize that you have to be happy with you before anyone else can be. If you excercise it creates endorphines and endorphines make people happy. You will feel so much better about yourself that you are making an effort to better yourself physically and emotionally. Obesity can be unhealthy and as long as you are healthy and you love yourself then others can love you as well and someone will. Trusting someone with your child is scary sometimes and it takes time to really get to know someone so take it slow with whom ever you may find. Make sure that the relationship is something you want to pursue before you get your child emotionally attatched to this person. It will also give you time to be sure that the relationship is truly what you want too. If someone loves you it is for who you are not what you look like anyway. Good luck.
2006-12-02 18:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by lilphill1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously thing that a gym membership would be really awesome for you. Going to a local gym almost daily can truly change your life. Check out your local YMCA, for example. You'll find that it is a great place to have time for yourself, to have me time. If you go regularly you are likely to start making friends, good healthy friends, including men. If you get a membership for your son he can go and hang out in the youth rooms or gym while you work out this is at no added cost to you, his sports and swim lessons are included too. He'll love it. (My boys do!) You can choose from many activities and participate at whatever level you are in. There are lots of people to assist you with equipment or questions. Try everything they offer at least once then pick what you enjoy the most. I think you'll find that the whole experience will boost your self esteem, will make you feel happier, you'll son will be happier too and who can resist a confident woman!!!!! [Notice that the goal here was not to lose weight or fat but I guarantee you that will happen by default. Goal here is a healthier lifestyle and a happier you!] Best of luck!
2006-12-03 02:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are Fat as you say doesn't mean that you can't be beautiful sweetie........ Just go out places and talk to people you claim not to be shy so jump in..... some men do not place all interest on body and looks atleast real men anyways..... and if the guy says something about your weight walk away and try again you can never let some jerks words get you down because no man is worth feeling bad about yourself... but first you have to learn to respect yourself before anyone else will... good Luck
2006-12-03 02:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear friend pls stop rating ur self ie once u r thin and beautiful it means now u r not so .44 is not too old a lot of life is there b4 u and take some diet and excercise pay attention to ur son dont be in a hurry to find a partner .Be sociable u will find a real good partner soon .Beware of so called sympathisers as they are more interested in sleeping with u rather than being a life partner
2006-12-03 04:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by zilzil m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are fat, go see your doctor. Tell you doctor that you would like to get more physically fit. Being overweight is a health problem not just a social problem. Once you get some good, healthy advice from your doctor, you can learn to start controlling your weight again. Starving yourself or doing fad diets will only hurt you and make you MORE fat. Eating good healthy meals and regualr reasonable exercise will make you less heavy. Once you can look in the mirror and see some progress, you will feel better about yourself and more prepared to get back into dating. Just be sure that you dont skip out on the first step, which is to see your doctor or another REAL nutrition specialist. Don't waste your time on those weight loss programs. They don't care if you lose weight or not, they just want your money.
Good luck!
2006-12-03 02:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry honey, but guys are SHALLOW. They will not seek you out or pay any attention to you if you are overweight. Lose weights so you won't be depending on some guy because you feel you can't find anyone else. You need to get back to being thin so you can be confident again! This is excellent advice trust me. I was in your situation and this is the only way out.
Best of Luck !
2006-12-03 02:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by dolcevita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you must do is repair your self-esteem. You classify yourself as once thin and beautiful. That screams insecurity. Men are attracted to confidence, and that comes from within yourself. You may "find" someone who loves you for who you are, but will you be able to love him if you do not love yourself? Another point I want to make is this. Stop looking to find someone. Trust that you are worthy enough to love and that you will be desired by a man. Begin with your house (your heart). The greatest of men will pass you by if you do not turn that light on.
2006-12-03 02:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by nicsmom1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
L.B Your not dead at 44. I am 54 and I go out. Once you get out of the house and stop eating to comfort yourself, as soon as you find friends to hang out with... everything will change for you. The fact that you love your son, you have been divorced for 7 years and love sports is enough to bring men to your door. Be strong and confident. Play up your good points and not your bad.
2006-12-03 02:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever thought of joining a gym and getting a personal trainer? Seriously, I'm not making fun. Losing the weight will add to your self-confidence, increase your endorphins (happiness), and give you a long, healthy life. Do it for yourself, and then the guys will start to notice.
2006-12-03 02:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by wankas99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think positive and think good things. I promise you that love will magically be there for you. Why? Because love naturally comes to people in this way. Also, think about signing up for bowling or take a class at a local college, so you can talk to a lot of different people. I promise you this.....A loving man will show up for you.
2006-12-03 02:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋