Can someone tell me why I don't want to have sex with my husband? He is a good husband and a great father. But I am just not happy with our sex life. He doesn't saticfie me in bed any more. I have no idea why I fell this way. But I have to act like I'm having an orgasum when we do make love. Cause I don't want to hurt his feelings. I have told him that why should I give it to him if I don't get anything out of it. All he says is I don't know how to make love to you anymore or be romantic. Please somebody help me figure this out. It is getting to where I don't even want to be around him. I have never cheated on him. But if this keeps up I just might. So please give me some good ideas.
2006-12-02 17:52:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think maybe you are mad at him for some kind of reason or its a hormone thing. Why not take over in bed and show him a thing or two???
2006-12-02 18:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Cutie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to spice up you marriage which is totally normal. Every marriage needs it at some point. Both of you would have to be very open minded and try new things. Get some kamasutra books and try the many things that are in there. Watch some porn or buy some toys to help out in the bedroom. Role play and dress up. DO some research on the net. Pretty sure there are many other great ideas. If all fails, try counseling. There are sex specialist who can show partners how to satisfy each other to the full potential. Don't be ashamed or afraid. Good luck and have fun!
2006-12-02 18:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by louise23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still love your husband?
You need to get to the source of these feelings.
If he once turned you on and pleased you in bed,
than he still can. Something got into your head and
now you feel like there's something missing in your life
not just your love life.
Dont cheat on him. Discover some new ways to have
fun in bed with him. Try lingerie- or check out what new
sex inventions there are.....give anything a try. Dont feel
like he can not perform, unless he truley is impotent, then
do some homework starting in your head.
Been there-done that- not an easy life since.
goodluck
2006-12-02 18:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get professional help as this sounds more like your problem than his. I'm not just saying this because I'm a man but when you state you don't even want to be around him it's more that just a bedroom problem. What makes you think if you cheat you will find someone that can give you an orgasm?
2006-12-03 01:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well seek help a Dr. sometimes on a women the sex drive goes down because too many reasons...Hormones is a quimico in balance and is very normal seek help with you OB and she o he might give you some kind vitamins etc...Don't be shy about it....And that about don't want to be around him became because you don't want sex you don't enjoy then you will hate the idea so start for getting help you will see that will help...
2006-12-02 18:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are bored with your husband. You need to find ways to fall back in love with him. And the only way to fix the sex problem is to be honest and you can do that without hurting his feelings. Start by asking him what are some things you can do to make sex better for him-that opens the door for you to tell him what he needs to do to satisfy you.That conversation alone can make you two feel closer.
2006-12-02 18:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by southsidedrp187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never cheat on your husband, Leave him first, sounds like maybe you need to tell him what you want in bed,
toy's what ever your comfortable with, how often do you have sex, sounds weird but if you have sex more he will beable to go longer, try forplay. don't just rush into it touch each other all over kiss, you know where I'm goning with this. My wife who Ive been with for ten years, loves for me to orally pleassure her, I do that for her every time cause I know it turns her on. really think about what would turn you on and ask for it men can't read mines,
2006-12-02 19:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by harry p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate...if you are married to the "right" man you should be able to talk to him. He should be more than willing to give you pleasure and of course the other way around. It is a touchy subject and I understand some people don't like talking about it.
Try asking what he wants you to do in bed when you start making love...it's only human for him to ask you back...and when he does be honest.
2006-12-02 18:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey22_jp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two need a sex therapist. You obviously want to save the marriage, but that's not gonna happen until you two deal with your sex problems. A sex therapist might be able to teach you and your man how to put the spark back in your relationship!
2006-12-02 17:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is like the 1st date that never ends. try new things, new moves, new techniques, new places, add toys, creams, trinkets, etc.
seek out a marriage counsler and see how you can rekindle the relationship. its common to happen when 2 are married and normal life takes over of the hum drum. Once you respark it you'll realize why you married him to begin with.
But it does take 2 to tango so both have to give it a try.
2006-12-02 17:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋