2006-12-02 17:42:07 · 28 answers · asked by scgraphix 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But What if she acts as if she doesn't want you around? she questions every decision you make concerning your children? and she doesn't even care when you feel alone? What do you do then?
2006-12-02 18:01:06 · update #1
Thank you, Roni. I think you are right. I am just terrified of being alone.
2006-12-02 18:09:19 · update #2
You know you have fallen out of love if you are asking this question. I think you are trying to CONFIRM your falling out by diagnosing the symptoms. Please seek a family and marriage counselor or your nearest self-help section of your local bookstore or library for information on what to do when you HAVE fallen out of love with your mate.
2006-12-02 18:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by nicsmom1999 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love goes through phases. Romantic love lasts about 2 years in order for a couple to bond and then it moves into a deeper committed love where those zingy romantic feelings may not always be present. When a couple are busy dealing with rearing children, the feelings of love may "bottom out" and then, when the children are grown, the couple often enters into a second honeymoon where they rediscover each other. Think of how lovely it is to know you know have shared memories and a renewed love once again! Love is not just about "feelings".
How do you know if you no longer love? Is there no longer any respect for the other person? Has there been a deep betrayal that cannot be healed? Has trust been broken? Have your deepest values changed and differ dramatically from your partner's?
I hope things work out for you and your partner.
2006-12-02 17:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical attraction and even chemical interactions are one thing, but an ongoing love relationship is a choice.
It is easy to fall into love with someone, but it takes a personal commitment to continue to work and develop the relationship. One has to decide to be committed to withstanding the trial and tribulations in a relationship.
To be honest, eventually every relationship will lose it "zing". What makes a relationship continue to work is the commitment to seeing it through.
That doesn't mean having to put up with abusive relationship however. No one should have to put up with any kind of abuse, verbal, mental or physical. That isn't love.
A couple have to continually work a maintaining the bonds that hold them together. Set aside "us" time where nothing else is allowed to interfer. Cultivate similar interest.
Often what leads to a feeling of falling out of love, is that individuals have fallen into a "rut" and have lost the thrill of getting to know each other. Adding new activities, developing new interest or just a change in "scenery" can build and strengthen a relationship.
Like I said earlier, ever relationship will eventually get to the point where "the honeymoon is over". If this is still the same loving person you first fell in love with, you have to commit to keeping it alive and growing, and not expecting it to always just be "magic".
2006-12-02 17:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by cyahlaytar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not sure but i believe their may be signs. Perhaps ones that are like red flags. But what i want to say to you is sometimes stress and hard times can make you feel like all is gone..and you lose hope. You have to work at a marriage all the time give and take. Don't give up. Signs would be not being attracted to partner, not caring about partner, having feelings for someone else, feeling like life is better without partner.
2006-12-02 17:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by Cutie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you constantly find things wrong in the other person(and constantly think of being with someone else)..a good way to find out is seperate for a good while. See how things go. If you really start missing her..then I'd think you may love the person.
2006-12-02 17:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know when you could not bare to think of your life without that person and have no interest in looking for anyone else.
You consider them above all people. You work as a team when i comes to family, friends, problems and everything. It really is the small things that count. if you know you cant do any of this any more then it is time to go
2006-12-02 17:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by lilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the list of bad things way outways the list of good things.
When you pass in the hallway like stangers and seldom acknowledge each others presensce, when you can no longer talk and the TV and computer has become your only companion. When you no longer show love or respect to each other.
2006-12-02 17:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have fallen out of love when you no longer are interested in that person being part of your life anymore. That person isn't important. You don't smile when you think of them. You no longer think of them and want to make them happy.
Everything that you think love is...when you fall out of love, the opposite happens and mostly, you feel either angry or indifferent. Sad, but very true.
2006-12-02 17:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by Kokomira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell by not wanting to be around the person. They just totally turn you off, but let me tell you if you are young, you won't understand this, but if you're older... EVERYONE has bad qualitys about them. This is something I never really realized before.
2006-12-02 17:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When even sex doesn't help, its a sure sign you have fallen out of love. Another sign is when you stop or avoid kissing even when having sex, is a definite indicator you don't love the person.
2006-12-02 18:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by praveen_silicon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋