I am finding difficulty in adjusting with my wife. We have been married for 7 years. We thought we were made for each other. Since last year things are changed. She is an MSc and a house wife. Most of the times we get into arguments because of in laws. I don’t like her parents and family due to some un favorable incidents that took place in the near past.
Not living together is not the solution, it will have more problems than what we have now. I want to support my parents and family. She doesn’t like it. She has “tit for tat kind of attitude” is there any one who can provide free marriage counseling in Bangalore? Is there any yahoo group where I can post specific problems and get answers. It is an arranged marriage. Now i think that I have chosen a wrong partner. There is not guarantee that wife /husband will have the same attitude which he/she has at the time of marriage. In the case of a job we can change the job and apply the learnings in the new job. Is this the life...........?
2006-12-02 17:41:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are in a mess guy. I can only symapathize with you. I guess you must be having kids and then its a bigger problem. Leaving or staying together is a tough decision which ofcourse you have to take. But I don't recommend sacrificing your life for anything, its just aint worth it.
Every person is born to stay happy otherwise whats the purpose of this life. Think about it...
2006-12-02 18:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by praveen_silicon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Do you still Love her?.......
If so than you should sit down with her and talk to her and tell her how you feel. When you are married to each other than that means you are not to keep anything from each other you guy's are not strangers maybe if you start talking to her than maybe she will open up her feelings and say something back hey you never know worth a shot give it a try don't be scared it will be ok good luck.
2006-12-06 16:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Minnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for online counselling i will say u better go for a person whom ur wife respect not anyone .. anywhere .. part two
arranged marriage is holy sh*t ... wat can u know abt a person in 2 mins of staring ... only idiots like u do that mistake and repent for life time ... u thought ur made for each other .. i am sorry .. she acted like that .. now doesn;t need to ... keep ur eyes open .. this is real her accept and agree ... in arranged marriage her parents are important life long u can't deny that .. accept and keep her happy
she is no need of u any more .. she has her parents and educated ... go on ur way idiot
2006-12-03 09:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Discuss with her the problems you have with your in-laws. If she agrees, your problems will be solved. Otherwise you will have to agree to the arrangement that you don't see her parents and she doesn't meet yours. That will only be the possible way to hold the marriage.
2006-12-03 03:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by Meeto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try Art of living course by Sri Sri Ravisanker.It will help a lot in solving your problem.
2006-12-03 02:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by damodharan c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one answer might be to put your wife above your family. The two of you need to be one and she and her needs should be above those of your previous family. I say previous because she is now your family and you should think of her first. No matter what women's lib says, we women have an innate need to be protected and she probably feels you'd choose them over her. I don't know your whole situation of course, but I think this is something to consider.
2006-12-03 02:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by itsmeinin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IN LAWS ARE BIGGEST MARRIAGE BREAKERS IN THE ENTIRE WORLD...YOU HAVE 2 OPTIONS...EITHER YOU DECIDE TO SEPARATE FROM HER FOR GOOD THRU DIVORCE OR IF YOU WISH CONTINUE YOUR MARRIAGE YOU HAVE TO ACT A BIT DIPLOMATIC SHOW RESPECT TO HER PARENTS EVEN IF YOU DONT FEEL IT INSIDE..AS YOU SAID SHE A TIT FOR TAT KIND OF PERSON..I HOPE YOU GET THE HINT...
2006-12-04 06:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the in-laws with a grain of salt ; its never ending!!!
if it all is arraned then you need to reolize, that is not what marriage is all about... ITS ABOUT TRUE LOVE!!
let her go off (she enjoys that), and stand your ground.
2006-12-03 01:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by sherriecrazyhome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i can understand ur problem.if u want help on line u can check out sitagita.com where u have councellors who can help u out.do check this site u can find similar problems. hope this helps u.
2006-12-03 04:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u are totally screwed and i do not mean in a good way. get out and leave while u can with ur balls in tact
2006-12-03 01:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋