I don't like alot of people in my space (in my house). I also don't like it really loud here. Seems like the more people around, the louder things get and it irritates me to no end. Am I being unreasonable? I feel like people need to quit acting like they can just drop in and party whenever they feel like it, especially with the new baby due at any time. I kick people out of my house contstantly.. I don't want uncomfortable people (anyone besides my family and my boyfriend) around me when I'm going through contractions and having cramps being loud and obnoxious. Does anybody think this makes me a *****? Thanks in advance for answers =)
2006-12-02 17:34:42 · 19 answers · asked by Nickey b 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Put a sign on the door that you do not want to be disturbed. Alternately, ask someone that you do want with you (boyfriend/family) to man the door and turn people away. You need a calm environment to birth your baby and certainly don't need to be feeling frustration or anger towards inconsiderate people. Look after yourself, and your baby, and Good luck.
2006-12-02 18:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by FionaKiwi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a VERY soon to be mom, you first need to understand that your life is about to change forever. It sounds like you have a lot of friends who seem to just not get it. Yes they will want to come over to see your baby, but you will have to limit the time that other people are aound for quite a while. Unfortunately, this means that you will be put into many more situations where you may feel like a jerk at times when you have to kick people out of your house, but it seems that you already know that your child is more important than any of them. As far as your family, let them help you out with taking your child for a while so you can get things done, but you will also have times when you need to tell even them that you need time alone with your child. Also, make sure that your boyfriend is just as involved in the child's life as you are. Yes a mom can raise a child, but it is so much better if the child is raised by mom AND dad. Best of luck.
2006-12-03 01:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Brian V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I do not feel this is an unreasonable request. Here is tip for you though put your foot down for real when the baby is born, post a note on the door that there will be no visitation accepted for two months. The reason you will need as much rest as you can get and the more people that "drop in" in this time frame increases the risk of sickness on your newborn, newborns have a very low immune system and need to be closest to the mother during the first two months (this also why I am partial to breastfeeding at least for the first two weeks, it boosts the babies immune system).
As for now, if they have no respect for you why would you worry about respecting them?
2006-12-03 02:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound a lot like me! I told everyone (even my Mother) that when I got home from the hospital with my new baby that I just wanted to be left alone for a few days with my husband and new baby. Some people didn't like it but too bad! Most people who have had children with understand and accept this kind of thing. Try not answering your door and keep it locked, if people have a habit of dropping in. Eventually they will get the hint. If you have to, put a note on your door at home telling people not to ring the bell or to just go away (try to find a nice way to say it, but be direct). Also, when you are at the hospital, don't be afraid to let the nurses know when you are not accepting visitors, they can put a note on your hospital room door. You are not being a ***** at all.
2006-12-03 01:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not doing anything wrong. You are pregnant, and everyone should understand that at the end it gets harder and harder to feel comfortable. I was the same way, I didn't want loud noises, or tons of people around me, and that stood for at the hospital too. I kicked people out of my room, b/c it became to much. It gets hard. Plus all of your senses are just going crazy while you are pregnant. For me noise was the worst, everything and everyone seemed loud.
As for people understanding or just dropping in, I would let them know that you just want things to be quite for a bit, take a rest, as you are going to soon be busy with the baby. Even at the hospital don't hesistate, you feel tired and want to nap once your little one is born, do it. It is tough work doing all of that.
Best of luck, and congratulations on your baby!
Happy Holidays!
2006-12-03 01:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by mke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your about to have a baby they should understand your feelings and how much you need your rest at this time and be respectful to you.I also am pregnant and am very moody and touchy and the littlest things are annoying me and alot of things get on my nerves.I also am having a hard time with loud noises etc.Keep people out of your home and keep the noise level way down in your home.Just simple turn off your phone and lock your door to get some rest and peace and quiet.You not only deserve it but need it.Once baby arrives you will be a walking zombie and have to hear crys 24/7.Good luck with your problem and a huge congrats with your new baby!!
2006-12-03 01:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not being an *******. This is your house, your space. Maybe there was an open door policy in the past, but people should repec your space. If they dont, hand them the rent or mortgage bill, the elctric bill, phone and gas, and have them start paying your bills. Then they can decide when they come and go. And for heaven's sake, get a billy club to sit at the front door to chase them out with.
Good luck
2006-12-03 01:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not unreasonable for you have your privacy at this time. In most hospitals they limit the number of visitors to your room and if you request they can stop them at the desk. Quiet time is also a time for bonding with your baby, especially if you decide to breastfeed. When it time for you to go home let people know you will see them by appointment. You have healing to do for at least 6 weeks and having a baby to take care of at the same time is draining. I had 3 children within 3 years. You need your down time. Have it your way, you're the Mother.
2006-12-03 01:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat1640 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Drop in and party?" You're about to have a baby and these inconsiderate "friends" want to come and party at your house?
Say "No."
This is your space, they don't pay rent, they don't get a say in what goes on. Tell them that it's time for a change and they'll be required to use the manners they've been ignoring.
Call first.
Ask before you drop a party on someone.
Be considerate.
Why don't they go party in their own space? I hope you're not catering to them or cleaning up after them. This is YOUR time, not theirs. They can take their party someplace else and leave your space alone.
2006-12-03 01:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by Merris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe people would drop in unless they are there to help you out! You are fully within your rights! Why isn't your boyfriend chasing them out or guarding the door? Of course you want quiet, security and privacy now. And after the baby comes you will need rest and time to adjust to being a Mommy, even more than now.
Let everyone know that. Post it on your door if necessary to keep these intrusive, thoughtless people out of your space.
2006-12-03 01:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Susan M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋