I am 7 weeks pregnant (with our 3rd) we have told everyone except for my brother in law & his wife. They have been trying to concieve for a couple years even went through IVF with no luck. Everytime she finds out some one is pregnant she gets very sad, depressed and then jelous. My husband and I have been tryng to think of the best way to tell them, I don't want to wait till she notices my belly in a few months. My mother in law said to email her, but that just seems wrong to me. Any advise would be so much appreciated, Thanks!
2006-12-02 17:28:47 · 11 answers · asked by notAminiVANmama 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Same situation for me. 3rd baby due next month, brother and sister-in-law been trying and have tried everything. When I told her she did get depressed for a while. She has told me now that she is very happy for me, she plans to be with me when i deliver.
I don't know how close you are because you don't say if consider yourselves sisters or friends or if you are just married into the same family. DO NOT DO THIS VIA E-MAIL or LETTER!
sorry for the caps but you really need to do it in person or over the phone. Be as sincere as you can be. I cried when I told my sis-in-law. But you can't just wait for her to see you or for someone else to tell her. Hopefully some of the trying to conceivers will help you wiht the what to and how to say its.
Congrats on the pregnancy and good luck with your situation. Happy Holidays to you.
2006-12-02 17:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by 1973kimberly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand a little bit about how you feel. My sister-in-law and I both became pregnant shortly after one another and we have a few friends we were reluctant to tell. The first one was a friend whose husband was preparing to leave for Iraq, and she was trying to get pregnant before he went (because sadly, they knew they might never have the chance again), and the second was a friend whose little boy died in an accident a couple years ago.
I think I would tell them soon, because if everyone else already knows, someone might accidentaly mention it to them. And it would be awful to hear it second hand.
Don't do it by email. That is cold and impersonal. Do it either in person or over the phone. I think I would do it over the phone, that way if she needs to, she can just hang up and take a few minutes to deal.
Good luck and congratulations!
2006-12-03 01:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a hard decision. in any way that you tell her she is going to be hurt. when i had my miscarraige, the next day i went to the hairdresser to distract myself. in the salon there were 4 pregnant women. She will get depressed even if she sees a pregnant women in the street.
Maybe you can ask her, that you need her help. To watch one of the kids when you are in hospital or you would appreciate her help. I don't know. Its hard to tell her. But i would go and tell your brother in law first. he has to find the best way to tell her.
No don't email her.
the thing is, i don't know how close you are with her. so maybe the advise i gave you, doesn't make sense.
well hope you get out of this situation in a nice way.
take care.
2006-12-03 01:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's better to tell her now. Just assure her that she will be a part of your baby's life. I heard of an old saying that you might become pregnant if you are around someone that is. It has become very true for me and my best friend. Everytime I have became pregnant, she did a few months down the road. It's supposed to have something to do with hormones. It may not be true but maybe that will lighten her sprits!!
2006-12-03 01:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kim Possible 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a sister in law that every time I got pregnant wold get upset and down because at the same time she was having a miscarriage and we have 3 kids now and she finally had her he was 9 weeks early and only weighed 3.6 and he is now 15 months but my point is just tell them because it's better in the end not to be "hiding" it from them if they love you they will understand.
p.s please do not email that it seems a little crude to me but if you want to then o.k.
2006-12-03 01:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by just lil ol' me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is god's willing, neither u nor her can do anything about it. Call her or email her or what ever and tell her but don't show her that u are happy, talk to her normally. It is better that u tell her than if she finds out from somewhere else. I wish u the best with ur new baby.
2006-12-03 01:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by AAYY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't suggest email >.< You guys have to tell them face to face because any other way seems like you're trying to take the easy way out. Try asking them out or over for dinner and telling them straight out. good luck
2006-12-03 01:49:09 · answer #7 · answered by Nickey b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you..no email...gosh I dont know honestly...thats a tough situation. wish I had some good advice to help you out..but really...if I were in the situation...I dont know what I would do. Good luck
2006-12-03 01:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe tell your brother in law & then he could tell her. This way if she gets emotional it will be with her husband. then they can talk about it.
2006-12-03 01:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by twogris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i was you I would just tell your bro and let him tell his wife...but if i was you i would not send it in an email i think that is very mean..she shouldnt be jealous of you..she should be happy for you
2006-12-03 01:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by kamdens mommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋