Married people I need ur advice.
2006-12-02 17:22:50 · 9 answers · asked by AAYY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is wonderful. Sure, it has its ups and downs, but that is true of everything in life. It takes tons of work and you both have to be willing to tough it out when things are not so fun. If you are both really committed to lasting a lifetime, all the hard work is worth it.
My best advice for married couples is this: even after the wedding, keep going out on dates. Make it a priority to have date night once a week (even if it is just watching a movie together at home) because it keeps you focused on your spouse and helps keep things fun between you!
2006-12-02 17:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can be an awsome experience if (and I stress if) you are sure that this person is the someone you want to spend the rest of life with. I have been married three times and there were many red flags during dating the first two that should have been enough to keep me from jumping off the cliff but my current husband and I have so much in common and we very rarely fight. We have disagreements, yes, everyone will but the qualities in your partner that you really aren't sure you can handle is what will make you or break you. I don't know if you have issues or not and I hope not but you really have to weigh the good and the bad. If you are truly happy with someone and can really see spending the rest of your life with them then, why not make that commitment? As long as there is no abuse going on by either of you and you can talk honestly with each other and laugh (and cry) together and you both complete each other there is no way it could go wrong unless one of you just doesn't want to make it work. Good luck with your future and I hope you find all the happiness in the world.
2006-12-02 17:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by lilphill1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends on you and the person you want to marry. First, you have to be comfortable with yourself and capable of taking care of yourself emotionally and financially.
You can't go into marriage hoping it will change you or the person you're going to marry.
You can't go into marriage to get out of a bad situation.
You should not marry if you're not willing to love, honor, trust and respect the person you're going to marry for the long haul.
Marriage, like anything wort having, requires time, attention and care. If you're not willing to "do maintenance" on your marriage, don't bother.
If you think that marriage is asking for a headache, then don't do it.
I've been married six years; it hasn't always been easy. But it's been an incredible journey for us both. I wouldn't change a thing.
2006-12-02 17:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For single men out there, keep this in mind. The person you marry, who acts like your life partner and soul mate, will be very different once they have a ring on their finger.
BJ's stop. Completely.
Sex gets reduced.
You will NEVER earn enough.
You are lazy.
You do not take care of your appearance.
You do not show any affection.
The man next door/ her sisters husband/ person on TV earns more, is not lazy takes care of himself and shows affection.
Did I say sex gets reduced. Well, its been halved again.
When you try and earn more, stop being lazy etc etc, it is NEVER enough. They will know someone who earns more, works harder.
Also you spend too much time at work. But you're still not earning enough and are still lazy.
Know what, sex has just been reduced by half again.
Married men don't live longer, it just seems longer.
2006-12-02 18:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a wife a lot of things are no longer the same, you lose your freedoma s a bahelor and she gains hers as a master...no jst kidding. But marriage is okay, it's what you both decide to make it.
is it easy, not by any standard, but it does take commitment, that is the highest price, then you have trust, and the third is love. If you have this, get married.
The other thng, most men who get married, literary grow up with reopnsibilies...give love a chnace.
2006-12-02 17:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm Married 19 years now and would say, for the most part all is good.
I have to tell you that when kid/s come along, it seems like your sex life goes away though.
Just remember this. I fyou Marry, Marry for Life and Not for any possible Easy outs.
2006-12-02 17:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It works for some,not for others. Love makes the difference.
2006-12-02 17:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by ga_light 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not get married, it is the worst mistake u will ever make, just stay single, get good sex when u want it and from who u want it and u will be happy. marriage is very overated and definately not worth it
2006-12-02 17:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by keithy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ideas will not make a marriage love will learn what 4 better or worse is before you commit.
2006-12-02 17:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋