I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. I do love him so much though. But I have been cheating on him ever since I've known him. I mean every guy that I've been out with I have cheated on them. I'm 21 and he's 40. I've been cheating on him with this one guy and he is 50 years old...and other guys as well...let's just say over 10 guys probably just this year... does this make me a slut or a hor (spelling?)
2006-12-02 17:19:58 · 26 answers · asked by A A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No you are not a whore. That is a very disgusting word. You are in terrible need of counselling. Please get some and then maybe you will have some respect and dignity for yourself.
2006-12-02 17:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about the label? What you are doing is unfair, and wrong. Why can't you just break up with him if you want to sleep around? Stop being a selfish, self-centered brat and do something for someone else for a change...BREAK UP WITH HIM! It'll be the best thing you've ever done for him.
EDIT-- Wait, I just read what some else pointed out, and I reread the question. You were 16 when you started dating this guy, who was 35? What the hell?!! Okay, maybe I judged you a little harshly...there are obviously some issues here. But that still doesn't change the fact that you need to get out of this relationship, it just changes the reasons why.
2006-12-03 01:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by wendy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah a little slutty and a major cheat. Why are you dating guys that are in there 40s and 50s? I get that you like older men, but that's A LOT older. Usually people cheat because they are unhappy and unfulfilled in their relationship. Try finding out what is missing and why you are cheating? When you truly find the guy for you, you wont have the need to cheat.
2006-12-03 01:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Interesting................
You're 21 and have been with him for years. So you were 16 and he was 35. That is a huge age difference at those ages.
When your mother first told you he was too old for you you should have listened. Or maybe the problem is that she never said anything.
Were you sexually abused as a child?
You may not know the answer to this question.
The behavior you demonstrate is extremely self destructive.
Why do you hate yourself????
If you continue on this path it will have nothing but devastating results.
To label yourself so negatively I think shows that you are well aware of what you are. You are the only one who can change your behavior and your life.
What brought you to where you are now?????
I think it's time for you to do some soul searching and set yourself on a new course.
2006-12-03 01:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Susan C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that the boyfriend you "love" isn't really giving you what you want. Maybe you see him more as a father figure or at the very least attracted to him at only an emotional level, and these other guys are what you are attracted to sexually. Also, you were about 16 when you started dating this guy. Are you sure that you were ready for that type of commitment? All these other guys may be your way of telling yourself that you weren't. I wish you the best of luck but this relationship will not work, your just not ready yet.
2006-12-03 01:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by bosco6159 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, no. But it does make you someone with a massive self esteem problem and means your looking for affirmation in all the wrong places. Learn to love yourself and you won't need random encounters to make you feel special. If your problem is instead that you've just got a really high sex drive and your boyfriend doesn't then either split up with him or come to some sort of understanding with him. However you're going to get caught sooner or later so be proactive before you're forced to be reactive.
2006-12-03 01:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ah YEP! If you love this man why can't you be faithful? I'll bet out of all the cheating you've done the only thing you got out of it is a wet cat. I haven't slept with 10 guys in my life time you slept with 10 in one year what do you think you look like?
2006-12-03 01:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
EWWWWW! Sweetheart what are you searching for ? Are you looking for a father figure?If so this is not the way to find one . YOU are on the right path for a scorching case o f HIV.
Stop being a hole in the mattress and get yourself some
counseling . Your self worth depends on it.
And if you still want to be a whore , at least be safe , protect youself.
2006-12-03 01:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by puddin' 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes u r a whore, and how can u even say u love him, thats a lie and u know it if u truly loved him u wouldn't have cheated on him, either break up with him or come clean and hope he doesn't kick ur sorry *** to the curb
2006-12-03 01:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by bob w 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How can you be that cruel that you would do that to someone. I mean, 5 years!! Maybe you are not the words in your question but you certainly are a horrible person. I honestly cannot understand why someone would do that to someone else. You obviously have no respect for yourself or others and need help.
2006-12-03 01:23:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋