And no fair just quoting from the Bible. I know what it says. But I want to hear WHY you think it's wrong. Maybe start out with defining adultery. Is it simply sex with someone other than your spouse? What about emotional adultery?? Why is emotional adultery related to sexual adultery? What is the common thread between the two? What is it about it that makes it so bad for us? And are there any exceptions?
2006-12-02 16:53:47 · 31 answers · asked by intuition897 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, great answers so far! Esp. kswildangel, La_Roche, Magic_8_Ball and ny_spork! Wish I could choose more than 1 best answer.
I am in complete agreement that adultery is indeed the most destructive abuse one spouse can inflict on the other. It is also one of the worst things we can do to ourselves as people, because it defines us as BAD people. And we do it to ourselves! We become our own victims and have no one to blame for it. Truly no one ot blame, because I am also a firm believer that there is NEVER any excuse to lie to one's spouse this way. In the end, the cheater had to actually make the conscious decision to take his or her pants off.
So we agree that adultery doesn't need sex to be adultery. Why, then, is God so offended by the sexual aspect of adultery? Is it a separate issue? For those who have already answered, feel free to send me a message from my profile.
2006-12-02 18:15:59 · update #1
Adultery is wrong because when carried out in private, which is usually the case, it robs the other person (the one being cheated on) of all the facts to make sound decisions for their own life...Essentially, adultery robs our right to choose how our own lives turn out. Sorry--I don't play that! I am the captain of my ship!
Adultery is both emotional and/or sexual...the best definition I heard to describe what is and what is not adultery is this:
"If you wouldn't do it (whatever 'it' is) in front of your spouse, it's adultery"
There are no exceptions...NONE, NEVER...if your marriage sucks, get out--no one wants to be miserable.
Adultery heaps bad, bad karma on those who dabble in it & they deserve all they have coming.
2006-12-02 17:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Adultery (physical and emotional) is wrong because it is a betrayal of trust. Your partner isn't expecting you to engage in sexual or emotional intimacies with anyone other than you. To commit adultery is to knowingly engage in activities that would betray the trust of your partner.
1. Adultery is not simply sex with someone other than your spouse or partner.
2. Emotional adultery is more devastating than physical adultery.
3. Emotional adultery is related to sexual adultery because sexual adultery is its physical expression.
4. The common thread is that both are a betrayal of trust.
5. What makes is to bad is the breaks the foundation of any relationship, which is trust. Can you really love someone you don't trust?
6. I don't know that I can think of any exceptions. I'm a firm believer that adultery is the coward's way out of dealing with the problems and issues at hand.
2006-12-02 17:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think adultery is wrong because of the moral aspect. I know you want more then just that so I will tell you what I also think. It is totally disrespectful to the other person. You are lying about it and cheating the other person out of memories that they should be making with you. It shows a total lack of love and it is something that makes the other person feel like shi#. How would you feel if someone cheated on you? Would you question if you were the cause or if it was because you weren't good enough? If someone stands up before God and promises to love, honor and obey then they should do just that.
2006-12-02 16:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what makes it so bad is that the cheating partner is so involved and wrapped up in this other person that they completely forget the vow they made, and the promises, and with adultry someone always gets hurt. it is wrong because it undermines the marriage, and destroys the entire family, not just the spouse who has been betrayed, it affects many people. adultry is anything u do with someone else that u wouldn't do in front of your spouse. their is a connection between emotional adultry and sexual adultry, the emotional part of it begins first, than leads to more serious things. it makes it especially bad for the spouse that thought their marriage was fine, and didn't see it coming, it is hard for them to move on and realiaze that they are no longer loved. it is behind the back, deceitful kind of stuff. and their should never be a reason to do it, why not just get a divorce first. adultry makes it difficult for one to even care about working on their marriage, if they feel they already have someone. adultry is sex, and emotions and a way of thinking, a perception that one has that they no longer love the one they married. when problems occur in a marriage the true show of someone's character is if they are willing to cross that line, before going to their spouse first, and before going to god about it.
2006-12-02 17:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is Adultery wrong? Because it makes you a liar. If you can't keep a promise to be faithful to someone for as long as you two are married, than don't get married. If you are being abused, cheated on, or if your spouse has an addiction, then get a divorce before you cheat on your spouse. You can bring home diseases to share with your spouse (which is a very shitty thing to do to someone) and your children, not to mention the indignity that your spouse is going to endure from your choice to have sex with someone else. It is just plain trashy. Not to mention, if you have children, you are cheating on your whole family and you are screwing with their safe and secure home. Adultery is one of the most selfish acts that someone can commit.
2006-12-02 16:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by The Nag 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it simply breaks down to this. You can have your cake, but eat it too? I believe adultery is any behavior a person engages in but would not want their spouse to witness, or find out. Sex outside the marriage would have to be the most severe. There is a purpose of marriage that is supposed to replace needing a physical, emotional, or any type of relationship with more than one person. I think it is stupid to even get married if you are not going to be committed to the partner your with. I understand that people will sometimes go outside their marriage to fulfill needs their partner isn't providing, but anybody who thinks that one person is always going to be able to fulfill those needs, should stop putting that much responsibility on one human being. Its impossible to do that. If we understand that our loved one is at some point, not going to provide us with a need we have, maybe we should not be so damm needy.
2006-12-02 18:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of reasons, but the traditional definition of adultery is what I'm going to go on here, and exclude the category of "swingers" or "open marriage". Its wrong because it can spread disease. Its wrong because it can terribly hurt the feelings of the other person involved in the relationship. Its wrong because (before DNA testing) the paternity of the children could be in question - most humans (and most animals) don't want to raise someone elses offspring unwillingly (adoption is another matter). There - I didn't even mention the bible (until now)!
2006-12-02 16:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Paul H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adultery comes from the word adulterate which is to make impure. From that you can derive so many meanings. But I think that might lead into an answer from the emotional adultery. if you have impure thoughts of someone other then your mate, it's a form of adultery because you are having a feeling of lust which in itself is considered impure.
I don't know if adultery necessary comes from sex though, it can come from mind or emotion.
The reason why it is bad because with our boyfriend/girlfriends we make an understanding to be faithful to one another. With our spouses we make an oath to the death to be faithful to one another.
Though there are prob exceptions to every rule you should be honest with your significant other. You should not string them along.
2006-12-02 17:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at the beginning you may examine your bible wisely, God did no longer have any Sexual relationship with Mary, God took a perfect seed & place it into Mary, yet in the past God did that God despatched an angel right down to tell Mary, Mary could have o.k. say NO, in fact Joseph replaced into additionally visited by an angel as a results of fact understanding that Mary had in no way Been with a guy,,,, Joseph replaced into going to place Mary away quietly, yet God additionally despatched an angel to Joseph asserting Joseph be troubled to no longer TAKE Mary as your spouse, for what she incorporates is that of the Holy Ghost. So there replaced into no adultery there, Now why is adultery is incorrect, it quite is on account which you have cheated on your better half.
2016-10-17 15:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its based on moral grounds more.Suppose you love someone truely and than you get to know that he/she has betrayed you by having relations with some other person while acting with you as if you are the only one in his/her life.Then how will you feel it ??I am sure you will feel no good.
Similarly its true for other people of this world.Thats why adultery is wrong.
2006-12-02 17:03:12 · answer #10 · answered by mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋