Would you forgive your husband if he was contacting other women on Myspace?

Question

He was contacting a woman who lives 30 min from here. He was asking for photos and was offering some of his. Would you forgive him?

Answer 1

the real question is what are u not doing that he is looking elsewhere. trust me on this i have cheated in the past and it was to get something my wife would not do. so just take a moment and think, "what has my husband been asking from me in bed that i keep saying no" and u will find your answer., then give him the best sex he has ever had in his life and make him forget she ever existed and erase her name from his pc

Answer 2

I believe your questions was would I forgive my husband. The answer is "it depends on the situation." Each situation is different.

Is he stopping? Has he repented? Is he changing his habits or is he still in MySpace? Do you believe him? The biggest question of all, DO YOU LOVE HIM!! Because if you love him, you might be able to salvage your marriage, if he is willing to turn away from his behavior.

Forgiveness is hard, but forgetting is practically impossible. The situation that hurts you, ALWAYS stays in your mind and both you and he must remember that. But you must be very sure that you are ready for trying to put the thoughts of this incident under subjection if you decide to forgive. If you love him, you can get through it. However, it will be one of the hardest things you will ever have to do.

I can not pass judgment and tell you to do anything particular except follow your own heart. Cheating alone is bad enough...finding out, destroys so much. If you decide to forgive him or not, GOOD LUCK! Either way, you will need it.

One tidbit though....tell him if you do forgive him...there won't be a second time to make the mistake. 1st time...shame on him. Second time....shame on you. Be good to yourself.

Answer 3

I would TRY to make the marriage work, so you'll need to find out what the problem is. If he can see that HE'S the greatest guy alive, in your eyes, then he shouldn't be doing the myspace thing. Here was my first thought, if he's asking for pictures to be sent back and forth, my space might not be the only place he's looking. You'd better find out fast what type of conversations they've had. Make him turn on the computer and go to myspace with you right there beside him, and have him show you all their past emails/comments/conversations with each other. Don't let him tell you he can't bring those things up, either. He can show all of his stuff he's sent and then he can go to this woman's myspace and see everything people have commented to her. If there's any phone numbers involved, then he's up to no good! He needs to shape up! My space is for teenagers, not for married men to be getting in touch with other women. Signed, Been there!!!

Answer 4

Does he do that in front of you, and with your knowledge ? If he does, then probably its just good freindship, but considering the fact that the woman lives just 30 mins away, you may want to keep a check that he is not wandering around. And No, I may not forgive, if its behind my back, and going to the extend of exchanging photos. But then it depends. As I said, if its with your knowledge, and he does involve you in whatever he does, like his conversations, the pictures that he gets from her, etc., then you could just share it with him, while keeping a check too. But honestly speaking, I really dont trust this situaiton. Perhaps you should write a mail, or chat with her, while your husband is writing or chatting with her, so that she knows he has a wife and she is very much around. Often, guys (and women too) may not tell everything about themselves, like about their wives, kids etc., or what sort of a job they are in.....so you never know. Please do keep an eye, and tell him that you really dont think its a good idea, if he is really planning to flirt witht his woman, who is just 30 mins away, and exchanging photos as well. Ask him what exactly he is up to. Clear your thoughts with your husband first, and I am sure you know how to handle this woman once you know.

good luck

Answer 5

It would depend. Has he explained himself and asked you to forgive him or is only asking for forgiveness to get you off his back?

If you caught him and his attitude was "Yeah. OK. I'm busted, I'm sorry, whatever!", then, no, I wouldn't forgive him. He's not being sincere in his apology. If he was acting like he was sorry that he got busted, then I really wouldn't forgive him. If he's only willing to go to counseling because he just wants you off his back, nah, I wouldn't forgive him.

Only you know when your husband is being sincere and if he is truly remorseful over the hurt you feel. If he is genuine, willing to discuss it with you and makes every effort to regain your trust, then I would forgive him.

I can't believe how many posts I've read by women in this same situation, and that men are really that stupid. It truly boggles the mind!

Answer 6

I would tell him how much this bothers you and demand that he stop the behavior. If this is a first time offense then I would forgive him and try to go to counseling. If this has happened before then I don't know that I would be willing to let it go. I would probably at that point go to counseling on my own and talk it through with a professional.

Answer 7

Forgive - maybe. Trust - no. He had better have a very very good explanation - and if you sense any falseness or if the answer is TOO smooth, take action. He needs to own up to what he's doing, and then counseling is in order.

Answer 8

I don't think it's an unforgivable offense. But if you do forgive him, I think, you will have to resign yourself to a life of forever distrusting him. People don't generally change. You'll always be wondering where he is, checking over his shoulder, searching his pockets for women's phone numbers. Can you handle that kind of life? If you can, and he seems sorry, then I think you should forgive him. But if you can't, then move on. His loss.

Answer 9

Forgiving people is easy, trusting them again is not.


Do you really believe he isn't a cheater? If so, then forgive and forget. Do you think he is a cheater who got semi-busted and pretended to be sorry? Forgive him and hire a private investigator. The peace of mind will be worth it.

Answer 10

was there any more to it , this is what you have to find out before you think about forgiving him. you may need to take a big look at what is really going on in your lives

Answer 11

I would ask him about her, why was he contacting her and how it began. I would talk about it before I got upset about it. I have a boyfriend, sometimes I get people who just pop in on me and we talk, that is not bad I do not think, but if hey are taking it elsewhere that is more than just chat I would be upset.