im 15 and ive been Always like really outgoing and i always catched the attention of boys but like a friendship type ... i was very popular and i was always so confident about myself .... from the group of my friends only 2 of my friends are pretyy and me ... but now theres this friend that lost weight and somehow she became pretty and even though guys dont like her as a girfriend type its seems like she took all my confidence and im just there ... what happeens also is that im very pretty we can even say sexy ... but i dont act like a sexy person ive never had ... i really need helppp becuz i feel like im having low self esteem .issues.. and im always trying to be better that them .. i dont know what to doo
2006-12-02 16:44:20 · 5 answers · asked by alexaa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
when you feel hurt, you will have low self esteem and lost confident
2006-12-02 16:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this girl you are talking about didn't take your confidence. Nobody can do that, unless you give your confidence away.
You are 15, & I don't mean to insult you but you ARE very young.
It is so great to be that age, but like everything else in life there's ALWAYS A DARK SIDE to everything. In your case there's a lot of growth hormones & other forms of body chemistry raging inside of you, & that sometimes affects the thinking of any young person.
So here you are happily confident one day, & the next you start to feel inadequate, & maybe not as pretty, & so you can't figure out why, so you grasp on to the 1st thing that even remotely makes sense to you & VOILA, you blame the girl who lost a lot of weight. It's called rationalization. You need to make something rational out of something that otherwise doesn't make sense to you at all.
At 15, you don't really need to be a sexy person. As a matter of fact most people don't need to be sexy every single day anyway.
You are going through a rough period right now, but IT WILL PASS. To get you through just remind yourself every day, that you have a family who loves you, you have friends who value your company immensely, & most of the boys at school think you're sexy, even on days when you feel you're not.
Take care of yourself.
2006-12-03 01:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to be the second. I understood that you compete. Don't, please. You'll lose your heart. Be happy that there are many beautiful people around you not only models. And try not to count beautiful people. You'll fail. Say, How many nice, smart girls are around !!! How happy we are.! wish you good luck! Be happy!
2006-12-03 00:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by rusteach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be your self and stop worrying about every one else
2006-12-03 00:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by beefcowsboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be urself!
2006-12-03 01:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by crop_chop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋