Am I really that messed up?

Question

ok, so there is this kid (16) who I pretty much hated. He was a huge a*s hole who added extra stress to my life. Last night he killed himself and I am not gonna lie, I am actually glad he'll never bother me again and i'll never have to worry about him. Is that so wrong? I mean, if someone the government doens't like dies, it's a good thing. Why do people keep telling me I am so messed up because I am glad a kid who tried to jump me and would try again if he ever got the chance is dead and gone and out of my life for good? This kid was out to get me for no reason, and now I can relax. Please tell me why I am so messed up... if you think I am

I didn't really wish death upon him. If he decided not to be an a*s hole anymore and just stay out of my life for good, or moved to australia or something. I would be just as happy.

Answer 1

You NOT messed up. Circumstances have removed a threat to your peace of mind and that must be a relief.
For some it is right that they die. For others it is sad.
It would have been better to have been able to witness a transformation in him, but obviously he had no hope.
There is always a reason why a person is the way they are.
I hope that those who invested in creating such an unhappy and obnoxious nature, learn from his suicide.

Answer 2

It sounds to me like you are happy that you don't have to worry about him anymore. Which is normal.

I mean, I am sure that this kid must have had a terrible life, so be beating people up and then to commit suicide, right? I also think that you have given this some consideration... what makes mean people mean that is.

Nonetheless, even if he was abused every day it does not give him the right to hurt other people.

Given the fact that he could not control himself - then died at his own hand - this makes me think that he must have been glad to see his own suffering end, so perhaps you also feel this somewhere inside yourself?

Anyway, I am glad that you don't have to live in fear anymore. Sounds to me like two people have ended the suffering in one violent act.

Stay safe and take care,
Chicken monkey girl

Answer 3

well its hard to say because i know this girl that gives me hell she punched me in the face with my two yr old I'm my arms over something so pathetic and if she had the chance she would do it again and i don't ever want to go back to the shop she hit me at because she is always there, and if she died i would also be relived so that i could live in peace and not have to put up with that crap so i sometimes wish she wold die as well its slack i know to wish that on someone else but that's just how i feel and i cant help that so can understand how you feel. same here if she moved to another place or somthing just as long as she was away from me i would be happy

Answer 4

I suppose it's natural to wish ill on your enemies & to not be overly upset if some tragedy befalls them. But no one deserves to die. This person was obviously very troubled if he took his own life. If you search your soul, maybe you can find some human compassion & see that this kid was very messed up. He obviously hated himself so much he couldn't bear to live, so anything that he might have done to you that seemed unkind was coming from his own pain & self-loathing. He wasn't out to get you, he just hated himself, life, the world & maybe everyone around him because he didn't know how to deal with anything. I feel sorry for him & you should too.

You should not delight in someone's misfortune, especially someone's death.

Here's the thing about anger & hatred -- they actually do more harm to you than they do to the object of your hatred. You have to learn to let go. If you can find it in yourself to pity that poor kid, your anger & hate will disappear & you will feel better yourself. It's not healthy to hold grudges & be hateful. It eats away at you. Learn to let go. Learn to forgive. You can be the better person. He lost his chance but you still have a chance to have a better life.

You are only messed up if you let yourself be. Life's too short man, lighten up.

Peace out.

Answer 5

I don't think you are messed up. There are people in my life in the past that I didn't wish them dead, but I will say I was relieved when fate took it's course and I never had to deal with them again. I think you just dealt with all you wanted to--and are glad for breathing room again.

Answer 6

I really do not think you wished him to die or even glad that he did, it is just a relief to you that this person is no longer in a position to bother or harm you. This is the way you are trying to relieve the anxiety this person gave you.

Answer 7

No, not really. If something gives you comfort, its natural to be happy. nothing bad in that.
Listen to your heart, it knows the best. The boys a history, but u have a future. Just learn what you can and forget everything else.

Answer 8

I don't think you're messed up for feeling happy that he won't bother you anymore. I guess one thing you can realize, though, which should give you some compassion for him, is that he obviously had serious problems that led him to be so messed up himself.

Answer 9

you arnt messed up. i could understand that. i had a problem withthis kid, and he moved away and i was estatic that i never had to deal with him again. if he dies it only would have been better. i know everyone says no one deserves to die... but sometimes...... there are just people who i seriously think do. hitler, for example. he deserved to die. if he had died, think of all the people who wouldn't have suffered! see? your not messed up! dont sweat it!

Answer 10

You don't sound messed up, but don't try and have a party (to celebrate his death), or people might start to wonder..

It's sad for his family (and friends), and it seems a lot more sympathetic/civil if you can quietly enjoy his absence.