I have told him that I am straight and have NO desire to discover what male intamicy feels like as it`s just not my thing.
Here`s the Question:
How do I tell him that I`m not interested in him without sounding like a complete Dick twards him.This has been going on for some time now and I`m all out of ideas and ways to try to explain to him that I`m not a Homophobe,I`m more of a don`twantyourweineraroundme-a phobe.........Please Help!
2006-12-02 16:38:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Is he one of your friends/workmates/acquaintances or something? Otherwise there would be no need to continue associating with him at all... if you have already said you are not interested then that should be all you have to say - just as if it were a woman you were not interested in, once you've told her directly and in an a polite manner, she should get the message and leave you alone. Homophobia doesn't need to come into it at all - if he thinks you must be a homophobe for not being interested that's crazy - (a) you're heterosexual and (b) I'm sure not EVERY homosexual on the planet wants to be intimately involved with this guy and I doubt he could call a fellow homosexual who was disinterested a homophobe! So you don't need to mention the word 'homophobe' - just say you're not interested in him in that way and would he please stop suggesting it. You could request that he no longer contacts you at all, however, if he is a close friend of a friend or a work colleague, that might not be so easy...
Good luck. :)
2006-12-02 16:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter who is hitting on you or what their sexual orientation is, It's a situation which demands that you remedy it immediately. Treat it exacly the same as if a woman was making unreciprocated advances towards you. Sometimes, it's crual to be kind. If you have, as you say, made your feelings clear in the past then you have to tell this person to put a stop to it in no uncertain terms. If they take offence it's not your problem. Don't go out of your way to be nasty, they will probably not like what you have to say, but you need to say it, clearly and concisely. Don't listen to the school of thought that "he just sees you as a challenge". Imagine the shoe was on the other foot and you were trating a woman like this and then said "I see it as a challenge". You'd get slated by everyone. This man needs to respect the fact that you are not gay. It's that simple. If he doesn;t like it then tough luck.
2006-12-03 00:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you super sure he's hitting on you, what are the "pickup lines"?? Maybe its yr mind playing tricks on you, I actually had the situation of a straight guy telling me at work, I was in shock like "what did I do??" Imagine that, you actually telling him the "bad news" and turns out he's not even hitting on you. Do this do something guy disgusting like burbing, making a rude comment bout someone he knows; If he laughing like a school girl he's a bimbo in love with you, if he doesnt and finds it insulting, he's just another gay friend. One other thing, some straight guys think they are "Da Bomb" that they are dripping with good looks and here comes the women and fags to lap it all up. Whatever.
2006-12-03 00:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by zuegma1977 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are just going to have to be frank with him about it. If you refuse his advances, that doesn't make you a homophobe. Don't let him put a guilt trip on you. Tell him something like, "Look, I told you before that I'm not interested. If you don't stop hitting on me, I am going to have to report you and get a restraining order."
That ought to do it. If not, get the order and report him for sexual harrassment. No one should have to put up with that.
2006-12-03 00:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a homphobe. Tell him to back off, that you're straight, and that you aren't interested. Just because he's gay doesn't mean he can't be a jerk. If a woman was too aggressively trying to woo you, you would also tell her to back off. So tell this man off and don't feel bad about it.
2006-12-03 13:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by roxusan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can recommend is being straight with him...pardon the pun. Maybe he sees you as a challenge?
Let him know that its never going to happen and he is wasting his time on you. he could be with someone else by now!
2006-12-03 00:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look him straight in the eye and tell him loudly and clearly that you simply are not interested in exploring any sexual or romantic relationship with him or anyone else of the same sex!
2006-12-03 00:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by silverleaf90210 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have never heard of a gay man that continued to hit on a "straight" guy after the straight guy told him he wasn't interested.......ever.
2006-12-03 00:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Steven Keith 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the same thing that you would tell a woman that was hitting on you and you weren't interested.
2006-12-03 02:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by phxflyguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already told him....now tell him that he makes you feel uncomfortable and that he is sexually harrasing you. Is it happening at work, go talk to HR.
2006-12-03 00:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by Joe D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋