I didn’t get anything for my birthday and I don’t think I'm getting anything for Christmas. I did say I didn’t want anything but deep down it would be nice to be surprised with something special. Is this wrong? I’m sad!
2006-12-02 16:09:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
That is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo sad. :o( I would never treat my wife that way. NEVER! Here, let me spread a little joy into your life with my annual seasonal links page:
http://www.SledRiding.com/seasonallinks.html
"It's the thought that counts" .......... "thought" being the keyword.
2006-12-02 16:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a lot like you. I get saddened when others get gifts lavished on them, then depressed when I feel overlooked or slighted.
Some thoughts:
1. The best gift getters are good gift givers. Good gifts reap big rewards. Small, thoughtful gifts for no reason; remembering good gifting occasions. Try keeping a gift log of ideas, occasions, comments made by others that can trigger a good gift, etc.
2. Get noticed in a good way. Comment about how excited you are about an upcoming event- not that you are fishing for gifts or anything, but let people know that your upcoming event is special to you. This gives the potential givers a heads-up that the event is coming. Also, when others talk about planning an event for someone, try to be a helpful part of it.
3. Keep a few appropriate ideas of what you want in mind- easy to get things that don't cost a ton are easier to shop for (and remember) than wish lists that are overly specific, annoying to follow, etc. Have a ready answer when someone asks 'so, what would you like?"
4. Be an enthusiastic recipient. Be thankful for any gifts received, send good thank you cards, make people happy that they gave you something.
A lot of work? Not really. It is more a matter of attitude about gifts. Becoming a bit more thoughtful and appreciative, and avoiding the 'gee, I don't want to say anything, I'll just sit here and be sad' trap.
Will such efforts be perfectly satisfactory? Nope. Some people just seem to attract better stuff than others, and some people have a gift for gifts. Those of us who don't just sort of have to deal with it.
2006-12-02 16:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen.... If you tell your guy that you don't want something, then he thinks you don't want it. Much like when you're in a huff and he asks "what's wrong?" you say "nothing". He thinks nothing is wrong, you're just having period issues.(we don't keep up with the math involved in your cycles) The best advise I can offer(and you won't take) is to always tell a guy EXACTLY what he's asking. We're not going to second guess any answer you give us. So... since you've already said you don't want anything, now you have to find a reason to get him near whatever it is you want. Show a keen interest in it(make sure he's paying attention, we drift off when taken shopping), and say something like,"You know, now that I think about it. A Christmas present would be nice. I could see one of these in my stocking."
2006-12-02 16:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by riddler2237 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry.... Everybody says "I don't want anything" from time to time, that doesn't mean that they don't. No, it's not wrong. But you really shouldn't say that because sarcastic people will ablige you kicks! Make a Christmas list of what you REALLY want, and pass it out. Say here's a few ideas, or I changed my mind, or let's exchange Christmas lists. Make sure if you do that, though, that you get them something. It is better to give than to receive. If you still don't get anything, get new friends. Everybody wants to give. Best of luck, and cheer up a little.
2006-12-02 16:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by honeysuckle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always nice to get something because it means someone else was thinking of you. And since we like that and expect it at certain times then no, there's nothing wrong with it. If you're expecting it from someone special, that's even more disappointing.
2006-12-02 16:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are dealing with a man, you should realize that they are thinkers...not feelers. They do not connect with feelings the way women do. You have to tell them what you want and sometimes lead them to it and rub their noses it before they understand...Don't set yourself up for failure and hurt feelings.. get verbal...say what you want.
2006-12-02 16:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dave K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who, beside's yourself is on your Christmas list and what are you getting them? Your friends probably didn't get you anything because they were so busy wondering what you're getting them. Buy your own present and shut up.
2006-12-02 16:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't say you don't want anything because obviously that is what you are going to get. People aren't mind readers. You have to tell them what you want.
2006-12-02 16:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well stop saying that you dont want nothing and maby you will get something.
2006-12-02 16:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by hardwood 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats because there is no love.
2006-12-02 16:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋