If they are still your friends why do they lie to you or are they not lying?

Question

Ok well I have a speech impetiment and weird teeth that slightly sticck out.

Well my friends, aquaintances and people I meet would say out of the blue that I have a beautiful smile.

Or I will tell them yeha I have bad speech I can't speak clearly (itt's gotten better lately) they'd say no you don't! I mean I never notice!

Well my mom and some speech therapist person said that these people are lying. Well the people that tell me this are Christians. Devoted Jesus freaks.

And when I disagree I have a pretty smile cuz my teeth stick out they're like no you don't! mY mom thinks they're lying she says they're lying.

Or when I got my hair dyed went to work, half of the girls in the dorms complimented on my hair out of the blue. My mom didn't like my hair and she said they're just being nice. Well for one thing I didn't ask them if they like it or not.

Well what do you think?

Answer 1

It doesnt matter how you look or speak, I personally have never seen you before, and you sound like a bright man.
Looks aren't everything, and should be the least of your worrys
If your happy with how you look, then I hate to say it but SCREW THEM.
I always use to have people tell me similar things like this, but after a while I stoped caring what other people thought, and thought for myself.
Good Luck to you and don't let people judge you... God should be the only one left to do that...

Answer 2

Personally, I have no idea if they're lying or not. But I don't think you or your mother should dwell on it. Obviously, these people care for you because 1) They actually think you have a beautiful smile/no speech problems ect. or 2) They're scared to hurt your feelings. Either way, this people are looking out for your feelings, even if the truth would be better. I wouldn't worry. Looks are not everything, and if they are true friends, they aren't gonna care if your teeth are crooked or if you have speech problems. Just roll with it. If someone is rude about it, well, they're not worth it!

Answer 3

I don't know if anyone is lying or not. What I can tell you is that I am sure there are many people who see you as you are and still find your smile attractive, or anything else about you attractive.

No offense but your mother sounds like there is something wrong with her.

I was always taught when complimented on anything the only response needed from you is "THANK YOU". Don't point out your self perceived faults, often times others do not see them as large and looming as you do if at all. And you don't need to wonder if people really mean what they say, just say Thanks and let yourself feel the wonderful feeling you get when someone compliments you or your appearance.

Answer 4

When you don't ask someone what they think & they tell you something they like about you then they like it!

When you ask someone what they think about something you don't like about yourself, e.g. your teeth, you won't ever know if they are telling you the truth or not. It is never a good idea to put a friend on the spot by asking them this type of question. My answer would be: It's not as bad as you think it is but younger people think they have to say yes or no.

Now: About your mother. Why does she say these things which she knows will make you feel bad? Ask her this question. And ask her if she would please stop; it isn't very grown-up or nice of her to say this to you.