I am engaged to a wounderful guy. I love him to death, of couse we have our ups and downs as other relationships. about two years ago i was in love with this guy online from near by city, who was a friend of my best friend. we never saw each other but saw dreams togather, over the phone, of having a house and being in love, you could say he was my first love, but he decided to leave for washington and then come back after one semester and visit me then, but before he has to go to france during summer. he contacted me in august or september of last year when he told me he will be staying in france for a while. after that i waited for him each night and cry to him to contact me, since i didn't have his contact info. i was very much in love i thought. i almost came to point i said "O God if he is not the one for me please send some help now I am hitting my bottom emotional point" and after lots of emails and leaving IM he didn't response. I waited a year and then i saw my current fiance
2006-12-02 15:48:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it was love at first site...its been great since it gets little tough some times of course, but i know no relationship is perfect and i know for sure no one can love me like he does. Today, i sent out an email to all of my friends asking for some help in a school paper. well among those emails i get a email from my old friend he says "Hello Baby, how are you? Congrats on your enagement. I couldn't response to your emails because ummmm never mind. Keep in touch" what i wrote was "thanks for the well wishes, i hope you found someone in washington, and same to you (not sure why i wrote same to you maybe keep in touch i am not quite sure)" then after sending i cryed thinking how wounderful it could have been if those dreams we saw were true.but at the same time i felt bad because i felt like i am connecting with my old spark.please advise.am i going nuts.was there anything there in the first place? Plz don't ask who you love...i love my fiance.maybe i am just still mad i don't know anymore
2006-12-02 15:53:14 · update #1
Don't worry about him anymore. you can't chose who you fall in love with but you can chose who you want to spend the rest of your life with. This new guy your with really loves you and should complete you. Letting the other guy come in your life will make your current guy jealous and put you in situation where you have to chose this guy you only spoke to online and the guy that loves you to death. And the worse is that they both can say stay out of their lives and then your alone or have a broken heart big time. The guy that left, be his friend but don't bring him in your house type guy for reasons of doing something you will regret and tell your guy about him so he doesn't feel left out of your life. he really loves you, keeping him out of the loop will cause problems that could of been prevented. contact me again if you need more answers.
2006-12-02 15:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by jalmond87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go after that old spark I think it will prove you have the kind of chaos magnet inside your head that will always keep you from having stability. You will have the same up and down relationship with the old spark if you go for him, but you will grow bored with that and get distracted by some other shiney new guy. When you get engaged you're supposed to know that is the person you want. It isn't just something you do for sh*ts and giggles. So I think you need to sit down and ask yourself if you really love the guy you're engaged to and if the answer is no then break it off and get some psychotherapy to find out what the h*ll would make you use and discard a human being who loves you the way your fiance does. Either way forget "Mr. Internet Romeo" from before thats a bad idea no matter what.
2006-12-03 00:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard the saying "theres no going back"? i think for the most part it's true. i have tried it it doesn't work. besides, this dude left you and didn't even contact you for a year? what a loser. He wants his cake annd eat it too. and he is a fantasy, not a reality. you do not even know how he is in everyday life. just keep him in the fantasy world and go on with your life.
2006-12-02 23:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should stay with this wonderful guy. But what you really have to do is think about who you love and want to be with the most. Who has the most qualities you want?
2006-12-02 23:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say throw water on the old spark ..beat the flame right out of it. and continue ya life as u was
2006-12-02 23:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must missed him alot
u put in alot of effort while he just went on on his own
forget about him. move on in life
w/o him, the world still goes round
2006-12-02 23:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by starapproximate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T WORRY ABOUT THAT GUY, TEND TO YOUR MAN, LEAVE THE PAST IN THE PAST
2006-12-02 23:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by CAROLYN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said you love ur fiance to death... i guess that all you need..
2006-12-02 23:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by mystery moo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with your current bf
2006-12-02 23:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk
2006-12-02 23:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋