My boy friend is 18 years older than I am. He is married and my boss. We have been together almoust a year. He met with my family. He introduce me to his father.
There is no sexual relationship between his and his wife. Our sex life is excellent. He is telling me that we will marry soon without mentioning any dates. He thinks that he has to go thought some pats before taking any actions. Because he always thinks his 2 children. He also thinks that his children will hate him because of leaving his wife and being with me.
He is a very succesfull and rich man. That is why he thinks i have to improve myself and prepare myself to him, present him well in the public. That is why i am taking many courses.
He offers me to rent an apartment for me, beacuse we both do not want to go to the hotel. It is kind of shame for us and it effects quality of our relationship.
I believe him, what do you think? I am confused.
2006-12-02 15:39:55 · 35 answers · asked by milk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My family knows that he is divorced.
Yes, he would like to control me. I lost my father 25 days ago. He wants me to respect him as i did to my father. I do.
Dont say that i am a b**. I am just a lover.
I left him once. He did suggest me not to have sex with him, but contunie the relationship. There is more than sex.
2006-12-02 16:35:40 · update #1
First, I am sorry that you are in this mess. I have seen this before more than once and on all occassions the married guy doesn't leave his wife for the single girl, and the single girl gets hurt.... BADLY! One of the cheating men was a very wealthy financial management company owner and the other was a very well respected doctor. I only bring this up because we are not talking about Billy Bob redneck, these are well to do men who should know better. And in both cases, the girls were young like you are.
You must understand that you are a victim of a case called, "One bird in hand, one in the nest." There is a good chance that he is not going to leave his wife and family for you and the others are right, he is going to use you as long as YOU let him. The bottom line is this, even if he did leave his wife and marry you... would you ever be able to trust him as your husband? You deserve to be loved by someone who is faithful to you and only you. You deserve the respect and trust that comes with a true relationship. You deserve to be with someone who has respect for his family and the sanctity of marriage.
My honest oppinion to you is to distance yourself from him. You mentioned that you work for him, it is time to move to another job because having to face him every day will make the distancing process much harder.
Deep down you know this is wrong. Your mind is telling you that but your heart is telling you otherwise. LISTEN TO YOUR MIND!!!
2006-12-02 17:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anjali U 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is not your boyfriend-he is another woman's husband that you are sleeping around with-he is telling you what you want to hear-he can introduce you to everyone of his family members,that don't mean that he is going to leave his family-he is your boss-he told you that there is no sex going on between him and his wife-how did they have two children-osmosis-he said that the two of you will be married,but he have something to do first-yea right-you said that you and he have an excellent sex life-why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free-you are confused-if you believe that line- continue taking your classes you will need them when you end up with out a job,when you find out that he is not leaving his wife-sleeping with your boss is not a good thing to do,you are only asking for trouble-I hope you don't think that you are the first and only person at work that he sleep with,because if you do you are more than confused-not a good thing to go with a married man-how would you feel if you were married and someone was sleeping with your husband (how would you feel) think about his wife and children
2006-12-02 16:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This man is just lieing to you to get what he wants. I very seriously doubt he will leave his wife now or in the future. Remember an old saying I have found true. If you can take him from his wife then someone else can come along and take him from you. Tell him to go home to his wife and kids and go out and find you a single guy that is worthy of the many qualities you have and never believe that you have to learn how to make a man proud of you.Don't ever let a man make you believe that you need to improve yourself for them. A man that truly loves you will love you for who you are. Good luck!
2006-12-02 17:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's acting more like a teacher to your then a man that loves you. I mean you are taking classes to act properly for him and in public with him? ;o( Sounds more like a fatherly image to me. I think you should open your eyes before it's to late. I mean the guy may never leave his wife and children and probably because he doesn't want to have to give them any of his money, especially his wife. The guys isn't even divorced from his wife and he's with you and already controlling you and your allowing him too. Down the road I don't think you will think this is so exciting and will regret you ever got involved with the guy. Open your eyes.
2006-12-02 16:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen - this is going to be difficult for you to hear, but - HE IS USING YOU. You are his mistress. His Barbie wh*re. His little fling in the hay because you swallow without bugging him to pay the bills later.
Try this: tell him you want to take the classes and keep the apartment and get ready to be a good representative for him, but you need to not have sex for 10 or 11 months so you can concentrate.
He will disappear faster than sh*t through a duck.
2006-12-02 16:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what if he wanted to be with you he would be with you. He is cheating on his wife do you want to be his wife and have him cheat on you someday. My husband of 11 years cheated on me for 10 months. Guess what he was telling her he was leaving me and that we never had sex anymore. We had sex very often and he had no plans to leave me. In fact he is still here trying to work it out with me. Leave this man and don't have anything to do with him until you see the divorce papers. Have you no shame? How could you be with a married man?
2006-12-02 16:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok not to sound negative or anything, but what makes you so sure that he will not in 5 years turn around and do you the way he is doing his wife now? As far as believing him, that is solely up to you. I am not in the situation, but you need to think of all things considered. What will happen when he does (if he does) divorce his wife? He may turn around and tell you that he wants to enjoy the freedom he has just been given and all that. Unfortunately, there is no set way to determine how any one situation will turn out. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-02 15:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are VERY wrong for doing what you are doing. Your name is MILK. Are you MILKING the man for money. Even if your not, you need to realized that if he is cheating on his WIFE he will cheat on you my dear. Don't be so Nieve. He will not leave you for his wife. He has kids. If you don't get out of this now karma will get you back when you marry. Sad to say, but true. HOW can you sleep at night. Before I was married I wouldn't even THINK of being w/ a married man. You need to let him go girl. It will be the best thing for you. Think of his wife, would you want to be in her shoes????
2006-12-02 16:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is a very rich man, than he won't be leaving the wife, he would have to split all of his assetts with her, he is just using u, your wasting your life on someone who is married, and when u start expecting more of him, and his time, he will dump u and go find another girl. he is only using u to get what he wants. if u do become his wife, someone else will be the mistress, so u really haven't got anything but a cheating man.
2006-12-02 16:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine it is a possibility to be in love and be swingers. i might want to under no circumstances do it because i'd be wayy too jealous. yet some human beings savour exploration with the help of sex. even although they're having sex with someone except their major different, that is okay because they have agreed to it and are open about it. they have were given to have a range of of have self belief. i don't believe of there is something incorrect with it. they purely do not practice society's "norm" at the same time as it contains sex and marriage.
2016-11-23 13:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋