ok so i have a new bf who i really like and he really like me. he were hanging out at him house today having a blast. he can always make me laugh. his personality is y in attracted to him. but there is a lil problem we were siting on the couch wwatch ing a movie makingout andhis cell rings and he asks me to see who is it and when i do it turns out it is his ex (im fine that he talks to her i know they are still friends and will always be they have know each other forever) but like she called to ask if they could get back together adn he was like no i dont think so i am really happy with who i am with. so that was good. but after he got off the phone i could tell somethings had changed. i knew he was thinkin about stuff. an i dunno his attidude chagned like he was thinkin about his ex. and that relaly hurts cause i care alot about him. i know he cares about me 2 but its kinda like y in the world is he considering it. and his best friend is really good friends with me and he was like i
2006-12-02 15:38:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
(to continue wat i was saying lol) his friends was like he is really thinkin about her and you. i dont know wat to do. cuase it hurts to know that i am not enough for him. but yea do you have an edvice for me???? please????
2006-12-02 15:40:17 · update #1
Don't bother trusting him until a long time has passed and you've come to truly feel deep down that there are no doubts.
The fact is, most relationships don't last forever. If you just don't know now, then you should give him the benefit of the doubt (don't go thinking "he might be unfaithful" at every trigger), and just let the relationship develop. If you can trust him, you will come to trust him over time. If this is just going to be a shorter relationship, then that will instead become apparent over time.
Just relax and enjoy the good parts.
2006-12-02 16:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey im defintly not an expert actually jus started this thing tonite but im a teen and i kinda know what ur goin through. Standing up for the guy i would have to say dont worry about it because it sounds like he really likes you, and he will get over her, yes if he has known her forever he will think of her from time to time but not the way he does about you. im saying this becuase i was in the same situation as he was. So good luck and im sure everything wil be ok, jus dont overreact with jeaously about something to soon. bye
2006-12-02 15:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by GMRN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you sound like you're really really young. Relationships are rocky at any age - never mind when you're a young person who's not yet adult and has all these things going on in your life.
Just enjoy the friendships you can have with people right now - anything beyond that at your age isn't worth it. People at your age are going through so many changes, nothing's forever.
If he's acting differently, just let him move on then. There's plenty of other people out there whom I'm sure would enjoy spending time with you.
2006-12-03 03:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy! Nobody is the same. I would think about it if I was having problems with my current girlfriend. The sex is something to think about. Like if she's more attractive then you? If you more attractive then her! It really makes a difference! But If he is mature enough to understand that looks aren't really important. Then He'll think about a real relationship. But If he thinks of getting more sex. Then he'll try to cheat on you. All of us men think about sex. Some of us could control the craving. But our minds are so tempted to do it. Watch out for him arguing with you. Also any signs of not showing interest in you. But tell him that you are worried and that you'll trust him to make the right choice. If he leaves you then he wasn't a real man. He was just a dog who is looking for something easy. You;ll find the right guy! I know I'll be happy with you!
2006-12-02 17:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance's ex still calls him once in a while. Sometimes after he talks to her, yeah, he seems distant like he's thinking about someone else.
I finally asked him straight out what he was thinking about last time she called. He said "How much happier I am now."
So don't worry! He probably isn't considering it at all. You might ask him to please talk to her about how it's inappropriate to ask to get back together, since he has another girlfriend now.
But you know what? If I'm wrong and he does leave you for her, he was no good anyway! If he'd seriously consider leaving you for a girl he already broke up with once, then he's crazy. They already broke up! And it's not like the people who meet again 40 years later. He hasn't changed. You're still teenagers. It wouldn't work again anyway.
2006-12-02 15:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not. My husband is still good friends with his ex girlfriend. He even took 2 weeks off work to fly down for her wedding while we were dating. When i moved to a different state for him the first people i met was his ex girlfriends parents. My husband even had another ex girlfriend ask to get back together with him when we first started dating. She wanted to fly to where he was to visit him too. He acted funny for a while but he was just processing everything and thinking back on their relationshipes. If you're worried talk to him, sometimes guy's just need some time to think.
2006-12-02 15:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a "new" bf. This means you haven't been going together long, and it hasn't been long since he left his ex.
You have to give the relationship time to go one way or the other. I'd say he wasn't ready for a new relationship yet, the old one is too recent; so, it will take time to see whether his relationship with you will last.
2006-12-02 16:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the benefit of doubt for now. He was probably shaken. Even though he loves you and is done with his ex doesn't mean he doesn't still have feelings for her. Give him time and if things don't go back to normal Then I'd be worried but for now just try to understand.
2006-12-02 15:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by gnine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. Do you really want to be with a guy who wants to be with someone else? Also, it would depend on why they broke up. If they broke up and there were no "Deal Breakers" like cheating... then I would say there is a good chance he would go back to her if they have more history, but again why would you want someone who doesn't want you.
I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-02 15:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 13:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋