My boyfriend's ex wife, who tried to kill herself when she found out that he had someone else, (They broke up almost 2 years now)mailed him a letter recently, telling him that she is sorry for everything that has happened between them, understands why he cheated on her and forgives him. She also wrote that he "will always be her first love". (she didn't write a return address) Does anyone have any idea as to why she decided to write this letter? And could it be that she is trying to be with him and still loves him?
2006-12-02 15:30:28 · 30 answers · asked by KerryAnn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She may just be trying to close this chapter of her life so she can move on. I would let it go if I were you.
2006-12-02 15:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by outdone 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why she decided to write it; the woman is clearly not well. ANYTHING could be going on in her head. I suspect that she did write this letter mainly for closure, as it seemed very final and she didn't give a return address. On the other hand, maybe you have an address for her, and she is trying to send some kind of bizarre message. Either way, though, I'd just leave her alone. It sounds like she will always love your boyfriend, but it's also possible that she will leave you alone from now on. I recommend having a talk with your b/f about what he would like to happen with this. If he is uncomfortable with maintaining a distance from his ex that makes YOU comfortable, then you need to re-think the quality of your relationship.
2006-12-02 23:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she is just trying to move on and let him go. I say let it go unless or until she writes another letter, and even then with out a return address on the letters all you can do is throw them away anyways.
2006-12-03 00:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably still loves the guy and has realized her own mistakes in the relationship and is just letting him know of this. I think if she thought she could have him back she would have included in the letter her desires to have him back which she didn't by what you said. I think she realizes he's in a new relationship and that she has lost her chance with him. Just enjoy what you have with him and try not to let her bother you. good luck to you ;o)
2006-12-02 23:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a letter to him to tell him how she feels b/f she commits suicide or she is really sincere and wants closure or he could be foolin' around w/ her and wants you to know ( reason for no return address b/c he knows it but I really feel the first respose is the answer to your ques. she is going to commit suicide hence the reason for no return address b/c she will be dead, no where to return the letter. She won't get it. He/ you / Someone should call her or call her relatives and check on her well being.
2006-12-03 05:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by lovelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound's like a way she's trying to close that chapter of her life. They may have broke up 2 yrs ago, but he may have still been "hittin' it" every once in a while,or something, leading her to believe they still had a chance. So for him, they broke up 2 yrs ago, when he said it. For her, they just did break up, when he said he had someone else, and did not need her "booty call" anymore.(not in those exact words, you know what I mean.)
2006-12-02 23:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(nice name - wink)
Could be many reasons for this.
It is more important what your boyfriend thinks about it that what it is. If she is still in love, that is normal. It is hard to end emotional ties. If you boyfriend has no closure - he may need to figure this out. She obviously needed closure. Since there was no way for your boyfriend to write back - it seems innocent.
2006-12-02 23:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice avitar by the way.........
Yes she is interested in your man.
She didn't put a return address on because (she knows you'll get the letter) or (she wants to add mystery)
Flatter the guy a bit keep his attention focused on you.....
Good Luck !
2006-12-02 23:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by John 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a best way to take him back to act nice, calm, sad, understandable women. She wants to make him think.
No return address? mistery. Men like this.
or
she would like to forgive herself. That is her way for it.
but
still becarefull, be calm, do not be jealous(or do not show it to him) and do the same thing to him. You are the women who is with him NOW. You are taking care of him.
2006-12-03 01:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by milk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a genuine apology -- she may truly feel that she drove him away and now regrets it. But she has probably given up hopes of getting back together with him, since she didn't include a return address.
2006-12-02 23:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by Me Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if thats all it said then i doubt it but there are strange people out there. this could be her way of letting go i mean unless it says anything about getting together again then personally i wouldnt worry. plus he did cheat not too many women would want that type of person back. no offense to him though.
2006-12-02 23:34:14 · answer #11 · answered by cheeryeyeore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋