I seem to get anxious sometimes when i am holding my boy. I get scared and it really bothers me!! I am so proud to be a father and i love my boy sooo much, but how do i get over my anxiety?
2006-12-02 15:23:01 · 6 answers · asked by duder75 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Yeah, this is part of parenthood. New moms talk about checking to make sure the baby is breathing every 20 minutes for the first year or more. I'm sure the fact that you are probably sleep deprived doesn't help! For the most part, I think it just has to wear off, so to speak. As time passes you'll come to accept that the baby is staying and you won't feel as scared. Eating well and trying to get some exercise can help. Also, it's important to remember that part of the anxiety response is for your breathing to become shallow, which means you get less oxygen to your brain & feel more anxious and it all spirals. Try to take slow, deep breaths and tell yourself, "This is normal. Everything is ok . . ."
Lastly, sometimes dads get post-pardum depression, too. Not from the hormonal changes obviously, but from the lifestyle changes, relationship changes, and the fact that life feels so tenuous. If it continues, don't be afraid to ask your doc for meds.
2006-12-02 16:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by silverkitte1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try to remember that we grow up in spite and despite our parents. And although he looks fragile babies are fairly sturdy. Take a deep breath, relax and enjoy the time before he talks, walks, and does amazingly stupid stunts with his friends!! You sound like a great Dad, ease up on yourself and don't be afraid to make mistakes and be scared... All new(good) parents are scared and obsessive and we all second guess ourselves... it comes with the territory
2006-12-02 15:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's tough! I can only recommend that you take deep breaths and continue to feed and hold him. It happened to me at first also, but the more I practiced, the more comfortable I got. I think it just stems from our fear of accidentally dropping or crushing them! They're so tiny and helpless! But as he grows, and you do it more often, you'll get more comfortable!
Good luck, hang in there and you'll be fine!!
2006-12-02 15:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by purplepartygirrl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is NORMAL...I felt the same way for about 2 months with my daughter...over time...you wil get more comfortable with your child...the anxiety will fade on its own....hang in there...and listen to your instincs, (not the anxiety)..congrats! and remember this too will pass
2006-12-02 15:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by dixiechic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sing this song to him and believe it yourself:
"He's Got the Whole World.. in His Hands..."
2006-12-02 15:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you feel anxious about?
2006-12-02 15:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by 14 Characters Left 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋