My daughters basketball coach....?

Question

My almost 11 yr old daughter's been playing on teams for this guy she's playing for now for the winter season for 2 yrs now. Not trying to sound braggadocious about my daughter but she's a good block player, rebounder, tall girl, and great defender so I can see why he always asks her to come play for him. I always take my daughter to her practices, she's always on time, and gives all that she can contribute. Keep in mind that we PAY for her to play on these teams. The girls are showing up for the game, he told them all be there by 11:30, they practice going over plays and warm-ups the entire 30 mins before the actual game starts. So every girl showed up on time with the exception of 2 girls. Now 1 is a giant of a girl, not the greatest but she's shown promise. The other not so much. So at the halfway point of EACH 6 min qrter the coach would sub in the 5 girls on the bench for the 5 girls out on the court. EQUAL TIME even though they miss practices all the time. Is this fair???

I know every parent thinks that their kid is a great ball player, I agree with what one or two of you said. BUT, I am not dillusional, I know when she's having a hard time or doing poorly and can acknowledge that as well. hehe....

I tried talking with her coach after yesterdays game that they won. I approached him in a non-hostile manner and asked why it's permitted and how's that teaching the girls any kind of sportsmanship and discipline? He made a snotty looking face at me, shrugged and said "I don't have to listen to this." REPEATEDLY! What kind of answer is that? I was like, "Yes you, do we paid for her to play."

This guy constantly warns the girls that "If you don't come to practice you don't get to play. I only have to play you 1 quarter by league rules!" I know this because I heard it with my own ears, because I sit and watch her practices, a couple of other parents do as well. He says one thing and does another and it just doesn't sit well with me.

Answer 1

I would have to say at the age your daughter is at and playing she may have to share playing time with other girls. However, with that said if girls don't show up for practices and are continued to be able to play in games I don't believe that is right, even if parents are paying for them to play. Sharing playing time with other team mates who put in the same amount of time as your daughter wouldn't be so hard to swallow but seeing your daughter benched so another girl can play who doesn't care about it as much as your daughter can be hard to take. There is no responsibility being taught by allowing kids to play who don't work for it. It is pretty much saying you don't have to work as hard as everyone else and you will still be able to play. It also could make the girls who are there every practice and every game upset and they may start looking at it where "why should I show up for practice and work my butt off, when obviously it doesn't matter anyways". I would say if it is really bothering you that you should talk to the coach about it, and also tell your daughter that she needs to keep up all the hardwork and remind her that she is playing the game because she loves it.

Answer 2

Perhaps not fair...but as coach and trying to do what's right and fun for the girls, he does that so they get equal time like you said. It seems the league is more recreational and just teaching the girls about the game and competition. I guess you have to see the other side when a coach doesn't play everyone with equal time and the parents complain about equal time. The coach probably took the best of worst world.

Answer 3

I don't think it's fair at all. Participation on a team sport shouldn't be just playing and winning... learning to work as a team, following the rules, and discipline should, and are in most places I know of, be the one of the main objectives. I don't think the coach is doing much of a job if he allows the "slackers" to play as much if they don't earn that privilige as the others do. I would think they should be paying to be on the TEAM, not just paying to play.

In defense of the coach though, are you sure the two slackers weren't disciplined in some other way (maybe extra laps or something at the next practice), that you aren't aware of?

Answer 4

I think that if your not there for practice you shouldn't be allowed to play the games because then you miss all the drills and plays so if you get out on the court you won't know what to do. If you pay to play then there parents shouldn't waste there money if they aren't going to play and practice 100% I don't think it is very fair no matter how good the one can be.

Answer 5

Many parents who have children on basketball teams think there children are the best on the team, I have read many questions like yours on Y! Answers..and many have said the same thing "My Child Plays Very Well And Comes To Practice Everyday" We"ll you need to make sure she really does play well and get's rebounds and blocks shots and makes shots as well make sure this happens all the time in games.

Answer 6

i think the coach is not being fair and should base playing time on HOW MUCH time the girls put into practice beacause its not fair if one girl misses practice and gets the same amount of playing time as the ones that do go to practice

Answer 7

my high school coach had a policy every min of practice u were late for thats how much time u were going 2 sit on the bench before u could come in . but its jus a pee wee league for u equal time for every1

Answer 8

the coach just wants everyone to have playing times, cause you said that u have to pay for the teams to play on, wouldn't be fair if they didn't get equal playing times,

if coach made the girls play different playing times, the parents wouldn't be too happy, and the girls wouldn't be happy, and they would be all sad

Answer 9

who cares...