We have been together for 10 years
2006-12-02 15:08:27 · 33 answers · asked by zimjoe1969 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
make sure he pays the child support
2006-12-02 15:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
man... I'm sorry. although this may seem like it's as bad as it gets, marriages have recovered from worse things ... but both people have to want it. She may still love you too. I imagine that people have all sorts of reasons for getting involved with someone else. the fact that it's her boss should hint at a more complicated set of reasons in her case. the power dynamic between a boss and a subordinate is like an emotional playground for someone with low self esteem. I agree with the others -- if you can convince her to go to counseling with you, then there may be some hope. what ever way it goes, good luck to you.
2006-12-02 15:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is the worst ever in a relationship. As much as you love her, you've got to remember one thing they always say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." If she really loved you she wouldn't have cheated in the first place. If I were in your situation, it would be impossible for me to forgive her. You've got to do what's right for you and be with someone who truly loves you enough not to fool around, to be there for the bad and good times. Although it's been 10 years, I would say it's time to let go, or if you can't seek some serious counseling. Just remember the boss will forever be in your life now due to the baby.
Hope this helps,
Jen
2006-12-02 15:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by JH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this. Sounds like she made her choice!
What you can do is find a good Counselor to talk this over with.
You must be a good person to still love the lady after what she did!
You need to heal now. Whatever went wrong between the 2 of you, maybe she found what she needed with the other man, but, talk to someone, even a relative, someone close, and it's one way you can learn to accept the unfortunate incident and move on yourself.
Bless you, you sound sweet!
The best to you in the future too!
2006-12-02 15:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you have to ask yourself if you will be able to accept that baby your wife is now carrying inside of her. I'm sure she's going to probably keep the baby and so it will be a part of your life as well. Chances are the man she was sleeping with will also want to be a part of the babies life as well so you will also have him in the picture I'm sure. But if you think you can handle these things then the next thing you should do is seek counseling for you and your wife since you will defiantly need this to give your marriage a chance to even work out. Good luck to you. ;o)
2006-12-02 15:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You still want her but is she able to make you happy anymore? Are you willing to accept her back, trust her, and accept this child? What about her? What does she want? Is she willing to stop this affair and stop cheating on you & start a new life with you?
Even if the answers are yes... you'll still have plenty of miseries waiting for you ahead. Are you going to tell this child who the real father is in future?
2006-12-02 15:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by Rebornie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What sort of spineless cuckcold are you?
Here's an idea, cuckold - hang around until the kid is born then kiss it to see if it tastes like his j*zz.
Your wife let another man not only stick his pecker in her god knows how many times, but unprotected and shooting baby batter into her until she got pregnant, and you want to hang around? Enjoy your continuous a$s-kicking. You must love torture.
Or, grow a spine and DUMP HER and the boss and the b*stard child.
2006-12-02 15:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U need professional counseling and Lot soul searching. Obviously she`s made grave error in judgment. If you have children together it might be worth trying to save the marriage for the sake of their welfare.A person of goodwill and strong caracther could keep the marriage together for many years to come,but raising the child of an adulterous union can only bring forth resentment. This child will suffer the con sequenses of such action and so will you, your wife and your children. A decision must be taken SOOOOON! I cannot make one for you. Please,deeply., meditate on your dilemma and a clear answer shall come forth and guide you on aclear path of righteousness and happiness.
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2006-12-02 15:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by HECTOR C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all, i am so sorry hearing this. i am sure you have difficult times nowadays. well, i am againsit cheating whatsoever the reason. so, for me, partners shouldnt cheat on even the relation is continuinng for 10 days or for 10 weeks or 10 years.
if she loved you and respected this relation , she wouldnt do that. how can you forgive him and continue as if nothing had happenned ? dont you think all those scenes will pass in your mind square by square and you will go mad and suffer badly. she had done that mistake on purpose and she should take its responsability without expecting from you anything.
if i were you, i would stab my heart to throw my partner away. in other words, i would definitely leave my partner and would try to heal my heart again for a new relation that i deserve. we cant know what life brings us once we falled in love. i wish strenght and peace of mind for you with all my heart.
2006-12-02 23:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info.
Is your wife still living with you?
Does she want the marriage to continue?
Can you handle the "Baby Momma Daddy Drama?"
Anyway, you can still love your wife and your wife love you and your new step son. No problem being one big happy family but you must realize that this boy does have a father and a whole other set of relatives/family. He also has a biological father, this is where the "Baby Momma Daddy Drama" comes in. Plus, remember the biological father will be forever involved and involved with your wife.
Best of luck.
2006-12-02 15:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been down this road myself.Was married for 16 years and she decided to screw around.I found out,we tried to work it out,she kept screwing around behind my back and got pregnant.Been devorced now six years.Hate to down you day but its going to take some really good councilling to heal and alot of time.You should try to decide whats best for you (stay or go) and be honest with yourself.Its really hard laying in bed at night wondering whats next,who is she dreaming about,did I do the right thing. Good luck.
2006-12-02 15:32:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋