When I was in High school I had a teacher She was struggling to have children and had a so-so relationship with her husband. I was having a very bad relationship with my Mother so when that teacher started giving me lots of attention I was happy. She'd read my poems and cry..or she'll tell everybody about my brightness and she would even talk to me about God and pray for me in school. I was going thru depression because of family problems and She would put sad songs in class that would talk about mother and daughters!! I'd step out of the classroom in tears..and then she'd give me comfort. This went on for a whole year. After I got out of her classroom I started feeling better..not depressed anymore etc.. I stopped talking to her because I didn't feel ok being around her. Was this wrong? Was she doing good or what?
2006-12-02 14:53:38 · 10 answers · asked by Any 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
That sounds pretty warped to me. I work a lot with schools and a lot of these teachers are pretty whacko and it's scary to think they are in charge of our kids. She obviously had some issues and that was totally inappropriate and very insensitive of her.
The way she made you feel should be your answer. No she was not doing any good whatsoever. You are right to stay far away from her. That was an unhealthy relationship even if she thought she was doing something good, she wasn't.
2006-12-02 15:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you felt better AFTER getting out of her class, then she wasn't a healthy influence for you. It seems as if you filled her void for children (something she shouldn't have shared with a student) and she filled your need for peace and attention (which you weren't getting at home). You obviously got over what was happening at home or you matured enough to deal with it (you didn't mention which), so you no longer need what your teacher has to offer. Unfortunately, it seems as if she is exactly where she started. Don't feel guilty, you don't have to be around anyone that makes you feel uncomfortable. I don't exactly approve of your teacher taking advantage of your hard times to compensate for her void, but she did ease your pain for a while. As a teacher, I don't think I would ever do what she did. It just doesn't seem right.
2006-12-02 15:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by pirulee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like you did the wrong thing. It sounds like she was going through a tough time and was unaware of what kind of a negative effect her actions my have on her students. I hope things are better for both you and her.
Good Luck!!!
2006-12-02 23:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was using you as a child she wantedand saw you as someone she could find comfort in. It was not appropriate because it made things bad for both of you. she could have gotten obessed with you and you could have gotten too connected to her.
2006-12-02 15:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like very odd behaviour for a teacher to me.
2006-12-02 14:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by massadaman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I dont think it was wrong but I think it was a little unfair that she gave you A LOT of attention.
as long as you're OK now, I guess she's fine.
2006-12-02 15:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by the new cookie cutter style 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably wanted to be a mother figure to you.
2006-12-02 14:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by just another kid. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just wanted to help you. That is all.
2006-12-02 16:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by SANDRA Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably couldn't wait to have her baby or something!
2006-12-02 14:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by ashleigh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it wrong.........I am not sure. Is it ok that you cut relations.............absolutly.
2006-12-02 15:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by Barbo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋