I am an obsessive individual who wouldn't socialise, make friends, e.t.c. I hate my life. Infact, no one knows me. I am so boring. Pls help!! i need suggestions. what should i do about my situation?
2006-12-02 14:38:11 · 10 answers · asked by Tim 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It sounds more like you are shy than boring.
try forcing yourself to talk to people. start small. be nice to them, treat them like you want to be treated. Pretty soon you will make some friends. sometimes people think people that are shy are stuck up because they don't talk to anyone. Maybe try joining an activity that interests you. Take your time and it wont happen overnight, but you can change thinsg if you try.
it wouldnt hurt to talk to someone about this...maybe a councelor
2006-12-02 14:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do you want to be more social?? if you do, i would say start small. smile at people if they do something nice, because it is pretty rare these days=0)....it may get you to feel a little more comfortable with strangers. then you can begin to relax and meet people, maybe make a few friends( and dont expect everyone to be trustworthy, honest or even fun-lol) i think that everyone cant get along with everyone....you should find those certain few people who you can be comfortable with and forget the other idiots that arent right for ya. And its ok for no one to know you. I used to bartend in a place where everyone knew everyone, it was always a race for something, always talk behind backs and even some very bad things like spite and backstabbing resulting in breakups and fights and crimes etc etc...BUT i knew EVERYONE and i mean everyone..they all smiled, chit chatted with me etc etc but in actuality, noone was my friend, i didnt really KNOW them...just the surface, like the scum that rises to the top of a pot of chicken soup ;0) in the end i came to realize that real friends are not easy to find...your not alone my dear=0) you just need to find the people that make your life better, that see you for who you are and love ya!!! there are people out there TRUST me...just dont settle and dont rush it,,,,maybe open up a bit, but dont change,,,at least not for anyone but yourself....merry christmas buddy =0)
2006-12-02 23:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by thatgirluknow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for a walk, climb a mountain, watch some birds or other animals--visit a zoo. You aren't boring; you are probably just shy. Sit on a park bench and talk to whoever sits down beside you. Ride a bike, dance, sing, go to church, ask the pastor to talk with you. You have control over you. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO OBSESS. TELL YOURSELF NOT OBSESS! Pray and ask God to show you new friends of interest who will help bring you out of your shell. Trust that He will do it and He will. Best of fortune. Sincerely,
2006-12-02 22:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to begin with, stop thinking you re broing. ok, i dont know you, but i do know that everyone has a lot to offer and im sure u do. just let ppl see that and stop worrying so much. be yourself and keep in mind that relationships arent built from one day to another. and yes, maybe its a good idea to start some activity like sports, drama, some language, whatever you re into. it could help you to get to knoe new ppl. remember, you can be whoever you want to be, dont get stuck in what some ppl may think about you
good luck!!!
2006-12-02 23:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by mechis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more hobbies you have, the more books you read or movies you watch...the more you have to say to people and the more you are out in public places where you can possibly meet someone with the same interests.
2006-12-02 23:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cultivate sneering at others.
2006-12-02 22:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by Zowzooma, the Angry Deity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go outside. go to a bar. or the library. anywhere other people are, and you're bound to meet someone else.
2006-12-02 22:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by o_snap 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave-gotta crawl before you can walk.
2006-12-02 22:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by TS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local MHMR office and see if you qualify for free or reduced fee therapy at your local mental health clinic. Please.
2006-12-02 22:46:48 · answer #9 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude... get a life... that helps a lot..
2006-12-02 22:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Ree J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋