My husband is a compulsive gambler. Is it wrong to walk out on him with 2 kids?
2006-12-02 14:29:21 · 8 answers · asked by julz1993 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You knew he was a gambler before you married him. Don't walk out until you are able to take care of yourself and your kids. If he has no job but you do, cut him off your finances.
Get your personal paperwork, IDs, birth certificates, money, new place, and attorney before moving out. Once you moved out, seek child support for your children. Know that you are ready to move out and not move back in once he says "Honey, I am sorry, I will change and get counseling"
Even if he does get counseling, don't move back, allow him to prove himself for at lease for one year.
Best of luck.
2006-12-02 15:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you convince him to join Gambler's Anonymous? Gambling is an addiction - a terrible strain on a family - usually there is no money for necessities. If he won't go to get help - you should join a support group for people living with addictions. If you honestly can't see yourself in this situation anymore after careful consideration then by all means get out. Try to plan it before hand by trying to save a few dollars and finding a place to live. Hopefully you have a supportive family behind you. Good Luck
2006-12-02 22:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by junebug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his addiction is causing a problem with the marriage, then it is not wrong to walk out on him with the kids. Give him the warning that if he does not seek help you will leave. Give him a deadline. If he misses the deadline just pack and leave. You will have given him a choice of his family or his addiction.
2006-12-02 22:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong to do that, it is your choice. But that is not going to solve your husbands problem, it may only make it worse. Try talking to him, or getting him some help for it. Try to mend before you end. Good luck.
2006-12-02 22:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you just go off and leave him, try talking to him about getting help. Let him know that you are at the end of your rope and if he is not willing to try to work on his addiction you are going to leave and take the kids. If you love him you will atleast try and help him before you just abandon him.
2006-12-02 22:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Hawkeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before u walk out on him, try to get him to seek help...it is apparent that he has a problem...tell him if he doesnt seek help u are taking the kids and leaving...good luck
2006-12-02 22:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by Sean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so. He needs to come to terms that he is a married man with kids and responsiblities. You can do better for yourself and your kids...good luck!
2006-12-02 22:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you know before marriage? if yes, well then its not fair, you shld try to talk 2 him...
if he changed after marriage, you shld walk out with 2 kids, let him learn a lesson...if he doesnt learn, well you got your answer, he wants to be alone...
2006-12-02 22:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jendralus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋