i was happyly married for 5 years now but for last 1 and half year we are living seperately.what happened cant say there is not a big reson to pointout but there are so many small things that have actually taken up and now we are living seperately.we both are two totaly different people.my husband is very possesive(i think that is a nice word to say).he doesnt like any friend of mine.before we got married he used to think that my friends will do my brainwash and i will not marry him.but now after we got married still he doesnt like any of them he thinks that i have a relationship with every single man i speak with.he doesnt conseder me mature enough to deal with men out side home.all the time he tells me not to speak with men in the office.but i have to conseder his old girlfriends and ask them to come home for dinner and all.because they are maure people and they know that they are not a couple now.they know and keep the dignity of the relationship.we have a 8 year gap of age.pls help
2006-12-02 14:27:31 · 9 answers · asked by aaditi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well to your credit he knows that you are a very attractive woman...His insecurities may not be with you perse'..as men we have a tendency to know how other men think and so our trusting other men with our very attractive wife is real awkward for us...so it may not be he doesnt trust YOU..it may be moreso he doesn't trust THEM...no that doesn't give him the right of being possesive but at least I hope that clears up his point of view and what you are working against....It seems that you though trust him if the scenario was reversed...the only thing that can be done is for you to attempt to reassure him of his trust in you....apart from that you can only hope that he has faith in what you say is true...also you can point to your past and demonstrate to him how your faithfulness has been demonstrated in the past 5yrs and if he can respect the history that has taken place among the 2 of you...after that honestly its on him to have faith in what you are saying is true....
2006-12-02 14:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never change him being possive of you. This is a short coming on his part. The best thing to do is end this and find someone that trusts you as well respects you. His actions are not that of trust or respect. And he is two sided. It should not be that you have to contend with his ex girlfriends. He has a lame excuse there that is for sure. Meet someone new and have a fresh beginning.
2006-12-02 14:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey no big reason to point out i beg the differ.. men that are possive they are out of control.. thats the bottom line.. u can never change a man.. i think u need to think do i wanna keep this marriage or if u dont then the hell with him.. i think thats what u are to the point of anyways u need the strenght and motivation to carry it out.. cuz girl any guy thats like that they abuse u mental and emtionally .. some even phsyical..
if u do stay in this marriage! GET HELP GO TO MARRIAGE COUSELING.. thats the only way i would consider going back to that mess..
2006-12-02 14:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay separated until he agrees to Counseling, at least.
My Husband is the same way. I can;t have guy friends according to him, and I don't like him picking my friends!
Yeh, like a control freak, and insecure, sounds like!
Immature! possessive------------so's mine!!!!!!!!!!!
This way ruins relationships! Your guy needs some direction! See a marriage Counselor before you make your separation permanent!
The Best to you!
2006-12-02 15:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and move on. After a year and a half apart, you know you can live without him.
2006-12-02 14:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you have told me, you just need to divorce to solve the problem, and then move on in a new direction.
2006-12-02 15:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would continue to live seperate as a matter of fact i would file for a divorce.who the hell wants a man that tells you who you can and can not talk too? yet he can do what he wants. he is a control freak. let him do that to one of his mature ex's.
2006-12-02 14:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have obviously firgured out that he is wrong. You moved on, keep moving. There is a better man out there for you.
2006-12-02 14:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry about this
2006-12-02 14:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋