i need a stronger prescription for my glasses.. and i lost them at school i did everything to try to find them i talked to all my teachers and went to the office to see if someone turned them in..and no one did..that was 2 months ago...i asked my mom if she could by me new ones or contacts..for 2 months now.shes like no i'm going to make you suffer for losing your glasses..& she said its not my fault you lost them...i dont want glasses or contacts i NEED them so i can see at school..she said well your math teacher moved you up to the front row..and i told her i still cant see the board (i honestly cant).. my mom says "ya right..your just trying to control me...why is my mom doing this when its somethin g i need i keep asking her......do you think my mom is rightt and she shouldnt buy me any?
2006-12-02 14:11:59 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm 13.....
2006-12-02 14:29:26 · update #1
she lost her ATM card twice in one month and had them replace her card fast...should i bring that up (about how fast she got her card replaceD)
2006-12-02 14:36:09 · update #2
wow. that's a tough mom you have. i dont think she should make you suffer in that way! i think you should tell your mom that you need glasses or contacts SO much that you would even buy them with your own money.. or something that shows how much you need them. tell her that you dont WANT them.. but you NEED them. and say that this is actually one time where you dont WANT something.. you NEED it. if that doesn't work.. give her time. she'll eventually get you new ones! good luck!
2006-12-02 14:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, from your description here, no I don't agree with your mom. Even if you lose things alot and she is trying to teach you to be more careful and responsible, you still need to be able to see properly.
Can you ask her if you could bargain with her in some way to get a new pair? Maybe if you take on an extra chore around the house that she would like you to do, you could "repay" her for replacing the glasses. Or if you are old enough for babysitting, ask her if she would be willing to buy you a pair, and you pay her back with babysitting money on an agreed upon schedule. This way, she will be teaching you responsibility, and you will get your glasses. Also, by trying to compromise with her, she will see 1) you really need the glasses, and 2) you are not trying to control her, but to work something out with her.
Good luck
2006-12-02 14:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kavindra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not agree with your mother. This is the kind of punishment you'd use if your daughter lost her cell phone or her iPod, not her glasses! If you have bad eyesight you can actually make it worse by straining to see, and it can cause headaches and dizziness as well. You have a medical problem that needs treatment, and if your mom is refusing to get you treated to punish you and "make you suffer", that's something you can talk to your school counselor or nurse about. They would probably be very much on your side. If you lose your glasses all the time, it might be fair for your mom to make you help pay for them, or work off the cost around the house. But if this is the first time, then what she is doing is completely inappropriate. When she claims that you are trying to control her, you should say, "This isn't about control, it's about my eyes. I can't see the board at school, I'm getting headaches from having to strain to see, and this could be making my condition worse. If you aren't going to help me with my medical problems, I'm going to have to talk to the school nurse about this." If she still won't cave, then do it!
2006-12-02 14:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have lost them more than once, or other things of value, I can see why she would be upset. But everyone loses things sometimes. Two months is long enough. She should take you to the eye doctor. If he/she says you need glasses, She should get them. How old are you? Can you help pay for them even a little? Are you willing to get less for Christmas to help pay for them? Also, some optomery shops provide free replacement for lost or broken glasses for one year after purchase...see if there are any near you. Saved my kids more than once. MY kids used to lose their retainers freq. and they were much more expensive! Tell your Mom you have learned your lesson, then prove that you have! Good luck.
2006-12-02 14:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your mom is wrong! it may be your fault you lost the glasses but you did all you could to try to find them! You could try saving up to buy them so your mom will think your responsible. You could tell your teachers that you still can't see the boards. They would probabl call home and tell your mom she needs new glasses. Then your mom would have to buy you some! If this doesn't work, try asking your dad ;)
2006-12-02 14:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by t dawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is handling this wrong. She should get you the glasses you need and punish you some other way. I assume you've lost expensive glasses more than once, otherwise it should just be a lesson learned.
You have to understand, there's more involved than just money. You're also demonstrating whether you value the things that she buys you with money that doesn't come easy.
Apologize and explain that you understand about the money and the responsibility.
2006-12-02 14:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by OU812 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your story is accurate and truthful, your Mom" could get into trouble for neglect. Glasses are expensive, but so is raising a child. So, who's behaving more like a child? Ask her if when she gets REALLY old and feeble, and you have to take care of her, if this is how she wants you to treat her... Don't REALLY ask her that. But just learn from this so that someday you may be a better parent. Sh should not neglect you and should find the money to buy you a new pair of glasses.
2006-12-02 14:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by Doc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to one of the teachers at school about taking you to the optomistrist because your mom wont do it. If you go long enough without glasses your eyesight can honestly get worse because you're straining your eyes to see. I dont think that your mom should punish you like that for loosing your glasses. How about coming up with diffrent punishments to talk to her about instead of going without glasses. If you cant see in your classes your grades could suffer, and then she'll just be angry about that too.
2006-12-02 14:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dmitri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you NEED good glasses it happens sometimes.I couldn't find my glasses at times in school and it sucked because I couldn't see the board to LEARN!!!Or when I broke them and I was waiting for new ones was no fun.
Ask maybe a friend if you didn't see all the notes might help for the time being.
2006-12-02 14:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by butterfly_queen_19_2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom is in the wrong. She wants to punish you for losing your glasses.This is the wrong punishment. Maybe she should buy some new ones for you and make you pay her back. If your mom keeps it up, go to your school counselor and ask them if there is some way that you can obtain some new glasses. Maybe your mom will see that your not kidding if you get some one else involved.
2006-12-02 14:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by X_YELLOWJACKET_X 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is wrong, if you can't see then you need glasses. Try puting up missing signs for your glasses and every week ask your school if anyone found them. IF you still can't find them and your mom still wont pay for them, then talk to you school counseler or a nurse or taecher and see if they know of any porgrams that can sponser you and give you glasses. Either way I hope you get some. Good luck
2006-12-02 14:18:13 · answer #11 · answered by quileter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋