As a man do you struggle with showing your emotions?? and if so why?
2006-12-02 13:54:38 · 13 answers · asked by sicilyuk 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I do not struggle with showing my emotions, but I think that men have a tendency to want to be in control all of the time and that includes being in control of ones emotions. The best personal example that I can give is that I cried at my mother's funeral but did not at my father's, and the reason that I think I did not at my father's is because I had not experienced the death of a parent when I was confronted with my mother's death but had lived through the experience when my father died and knew it was something that I could live through.
2006-12-02 14:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Damn I wished I struggled at times,, I am very emotional and sensitive and many times it works against me,, but other times its been good to be, I have cried in front of people I never thought I would,, I have been an emotional wreck from a breakup when I was truly in Love, then I hear a song that reminds me, and I fall all to crap and get all teary eyed again, I would rather be as I am instead of have to force my emotions out,
2006-12-03 05:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the emotion, and it very much depends on the setting.
In public or in groups, I tend to be fairly stoic, unless I'm lecturing on a topic that I find really interesting (I can get passionate), or I'm stressed out and a student says something rude to me. It doesn't bother me to laugh out loud at myself or at a humorous situation. However, if I see or hear something that chokes me up (triumph over adversity always gets to me), I get embarrassed and try to maintain control.
In private or at home with the fam, I'm much more demonstrative. I have no trouble showing affection (verbally or physically), or expressing praise, anger, excitement or sadness. I don't often cry in front of anyone else, but on a couple of occasions I've done so in front of my wife. Still, the hardest ones to show are always the "weakness" ones, like anxiety.
Oddly enough(?), I have no trouble *talking* about them at all. I can detach, stand back and analyze/discuss my emotions with very little difficulty or embarrassment. Being analytical and fairly articulate helps with this, I suppose.
Both talking about and showing have become easier with age (I'm 42). Probably a confidence/maturity thing.
I believe men feel the need to both be and to appear strong, and I don't think that this can be attributed entirely to cultural pressures. I strongly suspect that it is connected to our built-in instincts to "conquer our domain" and to protect our wives and children. Unfortunately, these instincts can be twisted into something much uglier, like dominance, aggression and lust, and often are.
2006-12-02 22:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes...I struggle and many times...I have to for my own survival!!! Most of the time when people come to me in the past when they seen me hurt...cause more hurt in the long run..and they cause the hurt by giving bad advice. Christmas is coming up and all I want to do is be alone...I have no family and I wish I did around this time of year, but I don't. I tell people all the time that I have a place to go to or tell them I have to work that day just to get them off my back. I know they mean well and want to treat me like family, but inside I feel worst cause I want that more with my own family and thats for my own survival!!!
2006-12-02 22:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by WV_Nomad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i never struggle with that. NEVER. I am free of the typical 'guy' mentality cause my mind is different from most American guys like hell differs from heaven.
I don't laugh easily - only cause few things strike me as funny.
But I cry easily - and often for hidden reasons. I can read a verse from the Gospels and suddenly break down when I think of Jesus. and his Holy Mother and the Saints, etc. etc. I get touched by the Spirit.
In front of mixed crowds of strangers, I am stone-faced and STERN. For guys I show all my sweetness and flirt openly with them, but for girls, I act STERN & cold & aloof. I want intimacy with guys. I avoid women.as much as possible.
2006-12-02 22:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what men do. Men are designed this way to protect their families. What use is a man who gets too emotional to protect his family? As you get older, you will appreciate the very special things that men do to take care of the people around them. Do you think men could build septic tanks, or do surgery on small children, or rescue people from burning buildings if they were showing their emotions all over the place?! Just enjoy this side of men - it may save your life :-)
2006-12-02 22:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The only emotion I had trouble showing was my feelings for men, i would try to hide that.
but crying in front of people or showing anger i could do that.
2006-12-02 22:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my wife, I would say no. She is a part of me and if I was not honest she would know anyway.
Now with other folks like co-workers, I would not want to show my feelings in some ways because us men feel that is showing weekness on our part.
I think women are that way some but not like us men.
2006-12-02 22:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by BAYOU MAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. I laugh when I'm happy, if I get extremely sad, I can cry(but I haven't in a very long time). I am very emotionally balanced.
2006-12-02 22:16:29 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. i've never been big on emotion 'cept when it comes to my kids
2006-12-03 06:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by harmony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋