If ur dad was gay and the guy he was going out with was like ur 2nd father and u loved them both very much. but one day u walked in on ur real dad having sex with some1 else. and he told u not tell.would u tell or would keep it a secret?
2006-12-02 13:26:15 · 13 answers · asked by Simply Me 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
im 15
2006-12-02 13:47:51 · update #1
keep the sercret. and how old r u?
2006-12-02 13:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by Dan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult question.
I really don't know how to answer re: the keeping quiet. I think if I had to see the "2nd father" every day, knowing the secret, I wouldn't be able to keep it. Are you dependent on your "real dad" for your care? Where's your mom?
About the multiple-sex-partners thing. I agree that you should say something to him about that. One, it's wrong to "cheat" on someone, assuming your dad and your "2nd dad" were supposed to be having a monogamous (sp?) relationship. Two, he shouldn't be having multiple sex partners, let alone letting you find out about it.
He's not setting a very good role model for you, gay or not.
You sound like a good kid. Best of luck to you, whatever you decide.
2006-12-02 21:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Shars 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I wouldn't know as my dad is in prison and I've never seen him. But you mean your dad was having sex with another guy other than his partner? Well I'd tell the other guy. I understand you have to respect your father's wishes and all but it will really hurt the other guy if he finds out your dad was cheating on him and it could very well be the last time you see this guy.
2006-12-02 21:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a very hard thing to see especially from your dad. Well i'm also 15 but i have a mom and dad and they never cheated on each other before (or not that i know of) but i had something similar like this happen, this may not be good advice but if this was me, I would talk to your dad about this and try to have him do the right thing, especially if this is really bugging you. Like I said, this may not be good advice from me but at least I tried. =)
2006-12-02 22:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by marah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, not exactly what I expected to see when I opened this question. Gays are so promiscuous. I have a gay brother so I am somewhat knowledgeable of the subject. You could try talking to your Dad but otherwise you should probably keep it to yourself because it will cause a giant mess if you say something and you will end up wishing you had never said anything. But that really does suck to be in that position and having seen that, yuck! Good luck.
2006-12-02 21:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Cleareyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are but in your situation I'd be really angry at my father for putting me in that situation. Can you tell your father that? It is not your place to tell your father's partner the truth but it is not your job to lie for him either. He has put you in a horrible position by breaking his committment to his partner who you view as a father figure. It is up to your father to make this right for both of you. If you can tell your father you will not be a party to dishonesty. This has nothing to do with his sexuality but how he is managing his relationship and family life. If you can't tell your father this than I suggest talking to another adult with who can talk to your father about this with you. This should not be a person who has a conflictual relationship with your father, however. Perhaps you could consult a group that supports gay and lesbian families. Good luck.
2006-12-02 21:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by kvcar2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him, it's cuz u don't wanna get in their business. just make sure ur dad doesn't do it again, if he does, then u should tell the other guy.
2006-12-03 03:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by dishabaklaha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that if he didn't say something to his current partner, I would. And I would remind him that he is supposed to be teaching you good habits for the future, sleeping around behind someones back is a bad habit.
2006-12-02 21:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** man, thats confusing. well, you love your step dad, so you should tell him. it will hurt them both at first buy they need to know. however, if your dad is gonna get SUPER pissed at you, just watch out.
2006-12-03 04:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don;t think his current parter should find out form you.
i think you should tell your father that he himself should tell his partner. But make it serious.
2006-12-02 22:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tangy & Cherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray that you are not gay and maybe just forget about it unless it happens again
edit:i saw your other question.....ur 15 and got a 15 yo son?!?! wow!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-02 22:10:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋