Hi, i have recently has a miscarriage ( 2 weeks ago ) i have not cried yet, i have not returned to work yet also i do not feel ready i feel as though people will think i am being over the top and i should try and get back to normal as soon as possible as the baby was not fully developed therefore it was not a baby...is it normal to feel this way ? like i need to move on ...
2006-12-02 13:09:46 · 10 answers · asked by Amy M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
yeah it took me two months to actually acknolwedge my misscarriage but only after the 2nd one. i was fine for 2 months then it hit me and i couldnt stop crying and i got really angry. basically my whole world caved in an couldnt do a thing.
your probably still trying to get over the shock of the news if your not ready tell them and see a councillour etc that specialises in grief it may help you to recover
2006-12-02 13:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. First of all, there are no rules for mourning. Second of all, you don't need to care or worry about what other people are thinking. What you have lost is not a person that you knew, but the hope of the future person. Since this would have been your child, it is a very real pain. You won't move on, you will continue on with your life, and have a baby. But you will always remember what you lost.
If, in a little while, you still feel unable to work, or sad or worried, please see your dr. right away. It is possible to experience depression after, & that will make you much worse.
Good Luck.
2006-12-02 13:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Murphy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women get over a miscarriage straight away, others take weeks or months before they are ready to get back to normal, either way it is normal, don't feel bad for what other people think just concentrate on getting yourself well again
2006-12-03 09:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by xoclairexo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you take your time about going back to work. don't they give you six weeks off or is it what you think you should be doing? it is perfectly normal for you to mourn the loss of this child. take the time to cry. this little baby was a member of your family. i know women who have lost babies and they still remember that baby as if it truly was alive and then died. this is what happened to you. don't worry about what you go through. just let it all happen. in my opinion, God above has that baby in His arms. i know this is a difficult time for you, but you will come out the stronger and will be able to help other young women in the future.
2006-12-02 13:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, but you can still be in mourning for what the fetus would have become.
If people think that you are being over the top, then they are thoughtless bastards. But i dont think many people think that way, most will be very sympathetic.
I am sorry for your loss hon, but look towards the future, one day you will have a beautiful baby, if you want one.
2006-12-02 13:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might not of been a baby yet but as soon as you find out your pregnant you say im having a baby, so in our heads its a baby from the start thats how i feel anyway. sorry for your loss
2006-12-06 10:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your time...no one can tell you in what way you will grieve. one day at a time. don't put so much pressure on yourself to pick up and go. you will be ready when you feel it. it is okay to morn what could have been, but don't wallow in self pity either. sorry for your loss
2006-12-02 13:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by be calm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no right or wrong here dont listen to anybody you do whats right for you. its happend t me, life goes on. i know its hard but do what you feel is right FOR YOU noone else! & if its your first child dont let it put you off trying again because new life brings wonders my thoughts are with you x
2006-12-02 13:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by moddymex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitley move on...these kind of things happen in life. Everything happens for a reason...try your best to look at the future.
2006-12-02 13:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Cali03 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you'll eventually get over it. and miscarriages happen, nothing can stop them. but i think you should move on though.
2006-12-02 13:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋