Is yelling at a 12 month old acceptable when trying to make them mind?

Question

I say absolutely not but my son-in-law does this to my grand daughter.

tinkerbellsnow girl, you said it right.

He has another child prior to my grand daughter who he doesn't act like he wants to spend much time with.

My grand daughter is a good baby. She is always happy. Not a problem child.

Answer 1

Only an idiot would yell at a 12 month old in the first place. In the second place; How much of what he says, does this idiot expect a 12 month old child to understand ?

The next time this mindless retard yells at this defenseless baby. You might suggest that he come down to the babies level. He could either sh*it himself and suck his thumb...Or he could love her unconditionally...

Answer 2

No, but take yourself away from your tiny granddaughter and into the shoes of your son-in-law. He might not have much parenting experience, has he ever really spent any time with a child? He's learning and he's frustrating and raising kids is hard. Nagging him will only frustrate him more and not help the baby. Look for way to gently help him, lead by example and if you have a problem with him, go to your daughter, not him (and never approach him in front of the baby!)

Answer 3

No. A little kid who's only a year old doesn't need that kind of "abuse" if you will. Spankings I think would be okay, but yelling just makes a person feel like they're good for nothing and everybody hates them. A spanking is associated (usually) with doing something wrong. It wears off pretty quick. I should know, I have a 4 yr old brother.

Answer 4

People are too liberal these days with how they raise their children. I agree children should not be abused but there is a difference between spanking and abusing. If you ask me, kids need to be spanked. I see all too many children these days actually telling their parents what they will or won’t do. I also see parents "asking" their children to do something instead of telling them to. Children who are not properly punished turn into these adults I can’t stand today. Adults that have no respect for other people. I got my rear end spanked when I was little and I turned out fine. I am respectful of others, I am kind, polite, and I understand how to act in public.

I don’t think that kids should be sworn at or talked down to. But being yelled at is part of life. You do something wrong, and there will be repercussions. If you do something wrong at work, your boss yells at you. You get my point. I think that kids need a spanking sometimes. I don’t mean beating a child until they are bruised; I mean a few smacks on the back side. It lets children know who is in charge. I can’t tell you how disgusted I am when I see children talking back to their parents, telling their parents what to do and telling their parents what they won’t do. That is a direct result of lack of discipline. You can only tell a child so many times, but when they get a smack on their butt, it tells them hey mom isn’t kidding this time, maybe I should listen.

To all of you out there who disagree, you are the ones with the children in the grocery stores telling you where to go. If you think it is bad when they are small, wait until they get to be 15, 16, 17 years old.

To answer your question in more detail, raising your voice to let a child know you mean business is NOT wrong. If he is swearing at her, or talking down to her (insults), then there is something wrong. If he is yelling without swearing or insulting her, then leave him alone and let him parent his child. Asking a child nicely not to do something doesn’t show them authority. What is she goes to touch the hot stove? Would you want him to say "honey don’t do that", or would you want him to yell "hey get away from there"? Yelling is what kids need sometimes to get them in line, and even save their lives.

Answer 5

He is the father and how he handles his child is his business even though it may be ignorant and ineffective in most peoples eyes. I say to him next time you hear him yelling, "wow she's a little young to be yelling at isn't she" and maybe find a really good book to help him handle his daughter a little more appropriately. Do it if possible without offending him.

Answer 6

Absolutely not acceptable, and I'm sorry to say this, but your son in law is an idiot for yelling at a baby.

Answer 7

People lose their temper and yell. It's a normal thing and shouldn't be taken too seriously unless he uses a lot of swear words in the process or starts becoming physically violent.

Kids have to get used to people yelling because it happens in life. I used to have an orchestra teacher who would scream and throw his baton if people screwed up a part. No, it's not nice-- but it happens.

Answer 8

no way, yelling is ALWAYS wrong and a sign that you´re loosing control of the situation, eye contact is the most important thing.. when a small child does smt wrong all you have to do is make eyecontact,put on a serious face and say "no" in a firm and clear way, but without yelling..they get the message

Answer 9

No. The best you can do at that age is redirect them and tell them calmly what to do, but they often won't comply. You often have to physically remove them from a dangerous situation or remove something from them that they shouldn't have or that they are flinging (like food.) They are too young to memorize and obey rules about a lot of things.

Answer 10

Yelling at a child at any age is not acceptable. I wonder if your son in law would want to be yelled at if someone wanted him to stop what he is doing.