Separated 3 years-no desire to go back, but spouse brings girlfriend to my house to pick up our child. He breaks dates w/ our child to take her and her kids places ( I made him pick up our child before he picks her up--so it's "backtracking" for him.Also he has paid nothing for 3 years. My atty says sue for half of everything and show no mercy because it's my right. I make more $--so, is this vengeful? Or should I make a clean break and ask for nothing.
2006-12-02 11:59:43 · 15 answers · asked by reeses30135 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't sell yourself short. You are entitled to 1/2. Get your half before he gives it all to the other woman and her family. Your kids come first now and always. You get half for them. It isn't about you it's about the children you had together. You, being the custodial parent need to think about their future, not just the present circumstances. It has nothing to do with greed. Greed is going for more than half.
2006-12-02 12:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The time period of which you could sue might have already expired. However, go for child support and make sure he takes care of the kids. It is a lot easier that way and ask him to respect you and the kids by not bringing her around. Just don't make things messy or nasty for the sake of the kids. The kids are the most important thing and should be the ones that are the priority.
2006-12-02 12:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may make more money, but is it enough for you and the children to live comfortably off of? If you lose your job, will you be alright for a year or more on what you have saved? If not, ask for at least a respectable amount, enough to keep the children looked after in all ways. If it comes to half, then so be it.
Also remember to set visitation/custody stipulations. If you feel his behavior is harming the children, let the court know. If he won't change for you or them, maybe a good judge can knock sense into him.
2006-12-02 12:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Empy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is so heart breaking i cant believe he would come with his girlfriend to pick up your kids and rub it in your face.then he break dates with your kids to take her and her kids places ( i would sue from for every thing you can get out of the bum) I'm a single dad my x- wife did the same thing to me she walk out on me and our kids i know how you feel but she paying child support know and your spouse put your kids though a great deal of hurt and pain
to.so you need to sue him for half of every think and plus child support and when the dust Seattle after the divorce is over if he talk bad about you in front of your kids take him back to court and put a restrain order against him so he cant never see his kids again that what i would do if i were you because 2 can play the same game and he has hurt your kids and you very much.
2006-12-02 12:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything you get in the divorce will ultimately go to benefit your child. You bet you should sue for at least half. I had a very similar situation and went for it all. I got it too.
Heck, after 3 years, if you still have anything you bought jointly, it was you that made sure it was maintained (and probably made the payments on it).
Your kid is the one that was brought out of this marriage, your kid should benefit--not this new woman's kids.
2006-12-02 12:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let you attorney be your moral compass. They are scandalous people who are just in it for the money. If you are doing it because you are jealous of his new girlfriend and not because you worked hard to help him get his money you do not deserve it anyway. All the money that you both spend on lawyers will probably be as much as it would cost to put your child through college. Do go after him for child support if you were awarded that, but don't use a lawyer to punish him for moving on with his life.
2006-12-02 12:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by jon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 13:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see, now there are three parties involved. you, your husband, and the attorney. make an agreement with your ex about all the things that matter, and make sure that you two stick with it. ya know, just chat about it with him. if you get greedy, so will he and his attorney; in the end, guess who wins? the lawyers. not you, and not him. you're best off resolving any issues directly with him. do you seriously need half his money? or is it something else you truly desire? talk to HIM! lawyers and courts should seriuosly be your last resort if you honestly believe you are getting screwed out of something. (and even then, try to focus on the thing you are getting screwed out of!)
2006-12-02 12:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very tough decision. You have to still be able to sleep at night, and you should not sue him because he does stupid things. However, you should get what is coming to you, you brought half into the relationship and you should get at least that much out. If for nothing else do it for your children.
2006-12-02 12:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by jordan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way, you're not asking for it for yourself. If it was just you, I would agree, just break it off and be done with him. But there's a child involved and that child is entitled to have as much of her life intact where she/he lives as possible. Best of luck, you have a long row to hoe.
2006-12-02 12:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋