Should divorced parents still purchase gifts for their ex, if children are involved?

Question

If both parents have remarried who is responsible for purchasing gifts for the other parent for holidays and b-days, their spouses or the ex?

Answer 1

Their spouses are responsible for that.....I never buy my ex anything from our daughter....his wife does that.

My husband buys things from our kids to me. My ex does not.

Answer 2

It doesn't matter if children are involved. When you are divorced you are divorced. You have to draw the line somewhere whether you are the divorcee or someone closely connected to the divorced couple. In my eyes, there is absolutely no reason to purchase a gift for your ex unless you really want to. I don't think your kids will hate your because you didn't purchased a gift for your ex spouse. Again, what does the children have to do with purchasing a gift for your ex? Save your money and spend it on the kids. You ex spouse has a new spouse to handle his/her gift buying.

I think I'd be a little ignored if my ex new spouse purchased him a gift. Its just a level of respect for your ex's new person. If I was you I wouldn't do it. I think you are searching for a reason to buy he or she a gift. Just let it go. Buy a gift instead for a needy kid that really could use a gift.

Answer 3

I think the new spouse should take over this role...but if they don't ( for whatever reason) its okay for the X to pick up the slack as long as you remember a few rules-
the children must be the ones wanting to give the gift ..don't use them just because you want to get your X a gift
also, make sure the gift is appropriate coming from the children to their parent...not a gift that you would select like it was from you
don't put your name on it either
(not directed at you specifically,its advice for everyone in general)p.s. for the sake of my kids, I choose not to have the hangups other divorced people do...I buy a gift for X AND his spouse at Christmas...from the kids, of course...they do the same for us

Answer 4

Personally I think that it would be more helpful to the children who are involved in the divorces and subsequent remarriages to go with their natural Mom or Dad to purchase the gift. I always took my child with me to purchase a gift for her other parent. This made my child feel involved and he/she never felt any animosity between his/her other parent. Acutally I always suggested purchasing a gift which would be welcomed by both the natural parent and his/her new spouse.

Answer 5

I am remarried. I have ason and daughter from an ex and my husband has a daughter with his ex and together we have a son. Our children are the gift givers, Let your kids choose a gift for the parent and spouse. It makes them feel more comfortable about the situation . Besides,..trust me...my ex's woman buys me awesome gifts in return.

Answer 6

if the child is not old enough to go shopping on his or her own for the parents, then obviously it's on the child's closest adult to see that the parents get gifts from the child. if both have remarried, then it's up to the new spouses to see that this happens. if not, then it should fall to the ex. hope this helped!!

Answer 7

My parents divorced when I was five. And they bought gifts for each other "from me and my sisters" until we were old enough to ones our self. I think divorced parents should definatly do this. It's not the kids fault. Parents need to preserve that image for kids whether or not they are together. I have no regrets my parents divorced. They kept things very enjoyable for my sisters and I.

Answer 8

You should take your children out to buy something for the other parent. You should not give a gift to him/her.

Answer 9

No,You and your x are remarried,there is no reason for you or them to give a gift to the other.You have children together,they are the ones who are suppose to get gifts.

Answer 10

don't by gifts for the ex wife