i cant take this anymore?

Question

my moms like really wierd. she gets mad over the littlest things and we have to always end EVERYTHING with an arguement. when i say littlest things.....i really do mean LITTLE things you probably will laugh. i know there are things i do wrong too but this is so serious. she is a single parent and i try really hard to understand her and be there to hear her out when she is stressing but this is too much for me...really... she is b*tching at me even right now while i am typing this. this is so F*CKING FRUSTRATING oh my god.. srry for the bad language but i had to let it out somehow........ gosh she's still talking she wont stop.

she is scaring me i dont know what to do...

Answer 1

I'm sorry things are so hard for you right now. You need support and comfort, and for your Mom to be your best and most trusted friend. Instead, her own frustrations and needs and fears are preventing this.
As a single parent (I know because I have been one) she no doubt feels overwhelmed at times with the responsibilities. If there are money problems and she has to single-handedly support the family as well, it can cause so much tension.... even panic attacks.
Parents usually try to hide their problems and fears and insecurities from their kids. But it comes out anyway. You are probably the person she loves and worries over more than anyone else in the world... and yet you are the one who she will flip out at, yell at, etc.
I'm sure you've been told,and you really know, it is not your fault and she really does not hate you, no matter how it seems. But that is hard for you to believe right now. And I know you don't want to be told that sometimes you have to act more mature, more compassionate, more forgiving and patient than your Mother. And yet, that is what is needed, hard as it is.
If there is a person you trust who your mom has respect for, like a minister or counselor, or a friend of hers or relative, that you could talk with--- maybe together you can go to your mom and try to figure out what's going on and how you two can solve this.
Trust me, please, when I tell you it is HER unhappiness with her own life (not with you) which causes her to treat you like this. She probably lies awake some nights with all kinds of sadness at how she's acted--- yet when the tension builds, she blows it again.
I'm sorry, honey. Take deep breaths and know that this will pass eventually. You just need to do the very best you can with her and for yourself. Don't run off and get into self destructive behavior out of reaction to all this. Instead pray to grow above it all.
Good luck--- wish I could help you more.

Answer 2

Tell your mom you want to sit down and have a talk. Sounds like she is under a lot of stress being an only parent. You want your space and you both need each other. Take some time and just talk. Shut off the computer, turn off the TV and try a hug, a little understanding between the two of you.

Answer 3

R u a teenager?
Maybe you should get a job and say...LATER MOMMA!
Unless u r a teenager.
Then maybe you should HOOKUP w/my G.F's son, you two allready have a lot in common, u could both like HITCH A RIDE to MEXICO...Even like 100.00 is a lot there.
U could both be happily miserable together.
Sorry.
I'm sure my SARCASM isn't actually helping.
So Try just talking to your mom, tell her how you feel and Say,"Look Mom, You know I love you. We both need our space....I am not your BABY girl anymore and you need to let me grow up, spread my wings and soar.
Or else I'm gonna run off with this BOY who's mom always ******s at him all the time...WERE GOING TO MEXICO...
He's gonna be a Famous Bull rider, and I am gonna open up a chain of HOTELS.
lol
GOODLUCK.
Its tough all around.
Whether little kid, teen or adult.
This life is not easy at all, ever.
DJH

Answer 4

Sounds like you're at a very normal stage of teenage development. Sorry to tell you this, but it will probably get a lot worse before things start to get better. You and your mother will be arguing a great deal. Just try to listen, and not argue back. In a few years, things will be better.

Answer 5

Things look differently when you are on the top rung of a ladder looking down or on the ground at the bottom of the ladder looking up. Same thing, totally different view. I've been there, I've seen it. What she sees and what you see might be the same thing but she sees it differently than you do.

If you ever want proof of this, climb up to the top of a tall ladder and look down. It looks higher up there than it does from the ground.

Answer 6

Start by not back talking your mother and showing her the respect she's due.Learn to stay in your own place and this will help a lot of the problems you have.Then do what is asked of you,when your asked not when your ready.If your over 18,move tonight!

Answer 7

How old are you...around 14-16..I had the same problems with my dad. Its just a stage in you life. Trust me things will get better as you get older...she wont be on you a** so much~

Answer 8

I understand my mom does that sometimes to. She is single and its hard for her and for you. I try to ignore it but its hard and you cant talk to her because she'll get more mad. With my mom it lasts a little bit for my mom but maybe diffrent for you. Hope things get better.

Answer 9

Does she also cry sometime? if yes, then she's really depressed. Try not to talk back and ignore it if you think its a minor thing. Tell someone she trusts well so they can get her some help

Answer 10

has your mom gone through "the change of life" yet? maybe thats whats happening now. or she just chose you to be the one that she knows she can just "let it out" at you cause your probably the only one who will take her bull. now you need to find some way to let your anger out when she does this. always be there for her. especially if she has chosen you to be the one! she needs you. but you need to find a way to vent yourself. find someway to listen but let it go through one ear and out the other so it dont bother you.