They are always saying " You wouldn't buy a car before test driving it, would you?"
People who wait for marriage are very strong people. In this day and age where everybody is doing it. It is hard to be strong and wait. They are giving something so special to their husband/wife. Sex is so special that is should only be done with your spouse. It is really not needed before marriage.
I was a virgin bride at the age of 28. To me I wouldn't have sex before marriage because I was given up for adoption at birth and I will not be like my "whore" birthmom. She was very dumb and fell for a guy who told her that if she love him she would have sex with him. Such a stuiped woman!!! At 22 she should have known better.
I vowed never to be like her. So I waited. When I told my husband on our 2nd date that ( I was 25 at the time) that I was a virgin & I was saving my self for marriage. He was shocked at first ( I don't know why) and then he was honored to be dating a woman who was
2006-12-02 11:05:44 · 16 answers · asked by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
pure. And on our wedding night 3 years later he was so sweet. And took it nice and slow. We now have a wonderful sex life.
I don't understand why people also believe that you will not have a good sex life if you wait. Think about it!!!! You don't know anything else. He/ she is your one and only.
And most people who wait have better marriages than people who don't because you don't have anyone else to compare too! People who wait ( read this somewhere) have a 80% less chance of divorce than people who don't.
2006-12-02 11:09:39 · update #1
I call my birthmom a "whore" because she had sex out of wedlock. What else should she be? At 22 ( in the early 70's) she should have known better. She was dumb because she fell for a guy who just wanted sex. She told me that she never wanted kids. If she didn't want kids then she shouldn't be having sex. It is that simple. She never loved me or wanted me at all. I have talked to her twice. She tried to kill me from the time she found out that she was pregnant, even had the nerve to ask the dr. when I was born to kill me.
2006-12-02 11:37:28 · update #2
Oh, by the way. I have been happily married to my husband for over 5 years. We have a wonderful 3 year old son and another son on the way in Jan.
We still make love at least 3 times a week 2 times a day. Even as pregnant as I am now. ( 32 weeks)
And my husband wasn't a virgin but, waited for me. The last time he had sex before me was 6 years before with his last girlfriend. He has only been with 3 women including me.
He is a wonderful husband, lover and father. I am so lucky to have him as my husband. We are soul mates!
2006-12-02 11:41:32 · update #3
You are strong I am wating till marriage to give myself up people may think I am dumb for doing this but I am smart for wating to give something so special to the person I am going to marry, I think you are cool because now I know there is someone like me out there in the world.
2006-12-02 11:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by suga mama 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It will depend a lot on where you are looking for men. In a church? Your grocery store? Clubs? The whole idea of no sex until marriage dates to the times when a man and a woman could not live on their own and raise a family; today, it's not uncommon for people to be doing fine on their own. Sometimes they have kids, too. This alone is probably why more people are open to pre-marital sex. Then also, back in the days, they didn't have such things as condoms; so in other words, getting pregnant meant you would have less options back then than you do now. As a society we have prospered; and this inevitably leads to wider acceptance of, well, just about everything and everyone! And being used to instant gratification in this society, is it really surprising that more people are willing to experiment and try things? Ultimately, there isn't as much reason *not* to have sex before marriage, and that's why people do it more.
2006-12-02 19:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by Nick C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After reading some of your judgmental, self-righteous, and plain old cruel answers, it's too bad that your mother didn't have the same ideas that you do.
No, 13 year olds shouldn't be having sex. That's kind of a given. But, in the long run, it really doesn't matter that much if a 23 or 26 or 37 year old is having consensual sex. Most people have long gotten over the Puritanical ideal that no one should have sex until they're married.
I must say, though, with such a strong belief against pre-marital sex, how can you EVER respect your husband when he had pre-marital sex at LEAST a couple of times! He's a man-whore, I guess.
I do have something for you to ponder, regarding your absolute hatred toward gay people, and how you'd disown your sons if they ever "chose" to be gay....I personally, don't think it's a choice, but allow me to play Devil's Advocate.
You plan to teach your sons all about your morals and ideals, and will parent them to lead a proper heterosexual lifestyle, circa 1954. I'm assuming you plan to take a lot of the credit for them FINALLY potty-training at age 6, graduating with honors, becoming Eagle Scouts, marrying virgins whom you've had your doctor personally examine to validate "pure" status, whatever, as parents do have a profound influence on their children's success. However, I would imagine the opposite is true as well. Let's say they choose to have pre-marital sex or *gasp* become homosexual...wouldn't that be because you failed as a parent?
2006-12-04 17:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by katheek77 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You really need to get off your high horse. You think you are so pure and perfect in God's eyes but whatever happened to "Thou shalt not judge"? You seem to be judging your birth mother pretty harshly for someone you have only ever spoken to twice. I have read many of your answers and you strike me as an extremely judgemental person. You say you're "pure" but a few weeks ago on here I read an answer where you told someone that you hoped that they got AIDS. I don't care who you are, no decent person let alone a supposed Christian would EVER wish something like that even on their worst enemy. Before you start looking down your nose at everyone else, why don't you take a good hard look at yourself? I think you will find that much like everyone else in the world, you are NOT perfect and you are NOT God, therefore you have no right to make judgements on unmarried couples, homosexuals, teen parents or any of the other people you constantly berate on this site.
You know, pre-marital sex may have been wrong for you but it does not make it so for everyone. My husband and I are not married and yes he IS still my husband because we love each other just as any married couple loves each other. The only difference is that we don't have a legal document that states the fact. Maybe one day we'll get one, maybe we won't but I really don't think that God could care less if we have a piece of paper. If keeping your virginity until your wedding makes you feel good then fine but you are no better than anyone else.
2006-12-03 06:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by Furry F 1 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I have read so many of your answers. It's hilarious. You make up the "studies" you claim to know. I truly feel bad for your kids. You are more judgmental then anyone I have seen on here. You say you are a Christian? Give me a break. If waiting until you are married is the only thing you can tell God something is wrong. If you only follow some of the Bible, don't you think He knows? It seems like the only thing you have going for you waiting! Good luck on YOUR judgment day from the only person meant to judge God and His Son!
2006-12-03 21:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm happy for you. But you shouldn't judge other women or expect everyone to be like you. Whether or not other people "save" themselves for marriage is none of your business. I think you're giving sex too much importance. Either way, waiting or not, big deal!
2006-12-02 20:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by Beth T 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your view of sex is your view...and you have a right to feel as you desire...however I disagree and live my life by my view. I don't push mine on others and won't accept others being pushed on me.
I like sex...I have it with whomever I desire (that desires to have it with me)...sometimes I go months without it, sometimes I have a few partners in a few months time...
I don't care what anyone thinks, it's not their business...I'm a groovy person and happen to see sex as something that is meant to be enjoyed...I'm not married and haven't been for 10 yrs...I'm sure as heck not going to stay celibate the rest of my life, and I have no desire to marry.
For those that choose to wait...that's great...NO ONE should do it if they don't want to or aren't ready...but those who wait are not one bit better than those who do not...
2006-12-02 19:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with waiting. I congratulate you for standing up in what you believe in. What bothers me is that you would refer to your mother as a whore. Just because she became pregnant and made one of the most important decision of your life.
2006-12-02 19:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
i noe my answer is rrly stupid, but guys.......all they look for in a girl is basically sex. and if u dont give it to them, the break up with you, and leave you heartbroken. same way if u DO have sex b4 ur married.the guy does you, then he dumps you , and again, leaves u heartbroken. so its better to wait for the right guy. and not give urselfaway to some jerk. && not all guys r like this. some cod b very understanding & loving like ur husband!
2006-12-02 20:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by cutiepiexx12 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh I so get you...... I waited for Mr Right the first time but what to do when he left me for younger hmmmm now I'm not perfect nobody will love me...
Good for you but seriously life is more complicated than you are aware of yet.
2006-12-02 19:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by lol_des 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋