I have a really close friend and she's bi. Now don't get me wrong, it doesn't bother me at all, I think its great that she trusts me enough to tell me. But when we have school vacations she'll e-mail me and tell me that she misses me or she'll call and tell me the same thing. I've asked our other friend (who know about her being bi) if she calles or e-mails her and says she misses her, she says no and I don't know what to do.... and suggestions?
2006-12-02 10:57:26 · 12 answers · asked by queens 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
And I'm straight and if you haven't already guessed but I'm a girl.
2006-12-02 11:05:27 · update #1
You need to continue being a good friend. If you are not interested in having a sexual relationship, you need to let your friend know in the same way you would let a close friend of the opposite sex know that you are not interested in him as anything other than a friend.
2006-12-02 11:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dunno about giving advice,but I know how i'd play it out. Just play it cool.Maybe she really needs the emotional connection of a close friend for some reason.If she's told you she's Bi, and she wants more than feriendship from you; she'll put the hit on you soon enough.(This may be the very reason she told you she was Bi,... to see how you'd react ).I don't even know her,but my guess is just that: she told you to see how you'd react and she'll soon put the hit on you.
Ultimately its up to you: I've been hit on by both bi men & women, its kinda freaky! After that, I never really knew where I stood with them as just a friend. Its hard to be friends again in a hetero intimate relationship,I can't imagine how hard it'd be if a relationship didn't work out with someone who is Bisexual.
2006-12-02 19:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by frith25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just consider you her best friend in the whole world, or she may be starting to develop feelings for you. I would be straight with her - say something like hey I am happy you are the way you are, but I dont think that is a life choice I am going to make. You are kick butt as a friend so lets keep it that way cuz I don't want to mess our friendship up. - just a suggestion. Honesty is always the best policy. If you let it go , it will get worse and its better to be honest and lose a friend then to wonder if you would have done things differently if you would still have a friend
2006-12-02 19:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by purrfectica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had the same worry a few years back, if she is your close friend she should know that your straight, if your not sure she does just mention to her that you "are her friends and you understand her preference, and hope she understands yours". More than likely she is just telling you she misses you because she can talk to you and trust you not to judge her.TRUE Friends are far and few between, be honest and all will work out. Hope this helps
2006-12-02 19:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I think its great that she trusts me enough to tell me"....
There you go, that's your answer right there. A new connection was just established between you two, and she feels closer to you now because she was able to share a very intimate secret with you...and she did not receive any retaliation from you for doing so. It's normal, especially if this girl doesn't have too many other friends. Don't worry...I highly doubt she started having the "hots" for you.
2006-12-02 19:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by coffeefreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She maybe just maybe see you as a good friend ..friends do miss each other you know ...if she comes on at you ..then you have your say ..but don't read any thing in to every time she says ..i like you or i miss you ..lol
2006-12-02 19:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing, it could that just fells closer with u than the other friend. As long as she has never approached you in the romance dept. Why worry, if she dose and your not interested just tell that.No big deal..
2006-12-02 19:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Les Gramps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just likes you more than the other friends because you relate to her better than anyone else.Or she like you more than a friend.If your not into that,tell her so up front so there will be no problems later on down the road.Then just be her friend.
2006-12-02 19:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Man take her out, she will forget about the bi thing
2006-12-02 19:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by lonetraveler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt of anything.. ask. People who don't ask questions wind up lost. The more you know the people your around the more comfortable you will be around them
2006-12-02 19:58:40 · answer #10 · answered by illtakealltheblame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋