2006-12-02 10:55:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try to work things out and make it better.
2006-12-02 10:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are married, and it is natural to go through times where you feel very unhappy. You shouldn't give up though! Go to counceling and try really hard to do everything you can to make your marriage happy again.
People who tell you to "just get divorced", have no understanding of what marriage is all about. It is absolutley impossible to live in the same house with someone day after day and not get sick of them once and a while. It is also impossible to go through the rest of your life without wondering if the grass is greener somewhere else. You obviously have some moral integrity if you aren't willing to cheat, so I can only assume that you took your wedding vows seriously?! Go back and review them, and then think about what they mean to you. You are obligated to work it out if it is at all possible. (Adultery or abuse would make it impossible)
Talk to your spouse!! Be honest about how you are feeling, and then find a good marriage counceler. Go on vacation, or just spend some alone time with your spouse and give it a honest effort. If it works out you will be thankful that you did. If it doesn't work out, you will still be thankful that you did. If walking away is what you have to do, doing it knowing that you tried EVERYTHING to save it first will make the decision much easier to live with.
Good luck to you!
2006-12-02 11:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What determines a 'bad' relationship? Counseling only works if both parties participate. Finding activities to do together sometimes can rekindle interest in each other as people. If there's nothing 'there' anymore, then divorce may be the only option.
2006-12-02 11:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by bb4pb510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im happy to hear you don't want to cheat. I suggest that you get your wedding pictures out and sit in the candlelight together with your favorite romantic music and try to remember why you fell in love in the first place. When you have been together for a while, sometimes you forget the good times you have together. I also would suggest to start doing things together. Ask what your spouse likes to do. e.g. dancing, opera, car shows. and make a date to do something together. Sometimes you need to suck it up and do something the other likes to do even if you don't. Remember its not always about you...bend a little.
2006-12-02 11:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by isellhousesinnm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some outside help to work on the marriage. If both of you aren't willing to work to make it better, maybe it's time to think about going your separate ways. Cheating is wrong and never solves anything. Don't add more "confusion" and "problems" than you already have!
Good luck.
2006-12-02 11:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't specifiy why you have a bad relationship. I put a link below to Dr. Phils website which may help you. Also, couples/individual counselling may be the answer. Don't give up until you've exhausted all other options. Peace :-)
2006-12-02 11:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that all depends, i don't hear you saying. you want to make it work, So what are you waiting for, go see a lawyer and do the right thing. get a divorce. why make more problems by cheating. if you just cant fix it, then get rid of it.
2006-12-02 11:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Becky ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi in your case make the first move to repair the damage as best you can if the response is negative talk to a counsellor on your own first but be honest all the way tell your faults as well as partners then try to go together if the counsellor see;s you are trying it makes it easier to solve best of luck cheers
2006-12-02 11:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by not a mused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk to them and work on fixing the relationship (perhaps counseling is in order?) or you split up and go your separate ways...then what you do won't be cheating.
2006-12-02 11:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it sad how a lot of people's first choice is divorce?
I would try and talk to them, take counsling, everything else first and then if there wasn't anyway to work it out then get a divorce, it would also depend on if there were children in the situation.
Divorce is nasty and can be avoided in most cases. A lot of marriages fall apart because of the lack of communication!
2006-12-02 10:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Fix it...the relationship.
Communicate - Get counseling - Take a vacation together - set up boundaries - join a hobbies together like learn to dance - do things you used to do when you dated...good luck
2006-12-02 11:00:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋