2006-12-02 10:53:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh wow, this is the million dollar question and it baffles me to this day because in essence... men are truly big kids their whole lives. I think there are a number of reasons why men are so afraid to become fathers. Some of the basic reasons are responsibility that fatherhood entails. There's financial reponsibility, emotional responsiblity and so on. Additionally, the whole fatherhood issues for men can go much deeper than the aforementioned. Subconsicously I think many men are afraid to become fathers because they afraid what a child may do to their relationship with their significant other.
I mean, its human nature to be a little selfish inside whether you realize you are being so or not. Many men feel as if once they have a child their sex life will virtually disappear. In general, they feel that a child will come between what they currently have with their significant other. Its a selfish way to think but many men think that way. Men get scared easily.... although they would never admit it. Yet, by forces a nature they were bred to breed. Its oxymoronic when you look at the big picture. I say "get over it." You can't be brave about everything? Right? You wouldn't be human if you didn't get afraid here and now. But at the same time, men should not allow that fear to overwhelm them to the point that they are totally gun shy when a woman says she wants kids. I've known men that have totally run the other way... for some reason kids scare them to death... and they aren't afraid to admit it. Those men tend be the bratty selfish type and they are essentially big kids themselves. They can't stand the competition... and what children may take from their self-absorbed lives.
The men that want to become fathers are the men that have great personal growth, are mature and have resolved many issues they may have had in the past regarding children and themselves. Its not as simplistic as many may think it is regarding fear of becoming a father.
Men that afraid to be fathers are men that are afraid of themselves.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-02 11:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ocean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do not think that MOST men are this way. Perhaps you just attracted the wrong men. Your statement would be like me saying that most women are sluts and have affairs...not true. There are a lot of good men and women out there....you just need to take your time when looking.
Good luck
2006-12-02 19:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by oldman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most MEN are not afraid to be fathers! Some few are wanting to hold onto their freedom, and their youth, but MEN welcome being A Dad. Males that have never grown up, are what you're referring to, and that's not most men. To me, it was the greatest moment of my entire life, when my kids were born. I was, and still am, a GREAT Dad.
2006-12-02 19:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its most men that are afraid of being a father, just some of them. I think its because they have a fear of repeating what they experienced growing up as a child.
2006-12-02 19:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the man, and I don't think most men are "afraid" of becoming fathers.
Perhaps the financial responsibility of raising a child has more to do with their "concern".
Hope that helps.
2006-12-02 19:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that's a true statement. Perhaps some men, but most men are not afraid to be fathers
2006-12-02 18:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most men are NOT afraid to be fathers at all--who told you that and can they back that up with FACTS.....and OCEAN.....you speak absolute b0110Cks,and must have just come in from the pub to have spouted all that cr4p.
2006-12-02 20:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being a parent is a HUGE responsibility. Most men I've talked to fear ending up like their dads..
2006-12-02 18:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Caring for another human being is a scary thing. I think that is normal thing for men and women.
2006-12-02 19:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just ones who didn't choose the path some men so want to be fathers it is funny....
2006-12-02 19:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋