What do you think of mail order brides? What do you think of the guys who marry them?
2006-12-02 10:50:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im here as a product of mail order bride.
for almost 22 years, im still with the man that i married and met through correspondence. its been rocky in the beginning since we have a lot of adjustment to deal with, but we manage to overcome all of it.
since i've experience this whole issue, i can tell you that some of the answerer hit it right. women who tend to this matter, wanted to make a better life than what they have had. some wanted to get away from their previous relationship, some resulted into fulfilling their dreams, some abide their parents wishes, some for fun, some take risk and chances they have to make, some think of it as opportunity and among others.
mine? personal. when i was young, i wanted to marry a foreigner, cause i feel my own people look down on me, i feel no one wants me, so that is why i decide that i will not get involve with my own race. its not that im horrible person either in facial or characters, i have what it takes, its just i look snob but im not. that hurts me the most, i just don't like men in my own race, i've seen what they have done to their wives, i've seen it through my environment. so i thought they are all the same, and im not going to be one of the statistic. i know im a gutsy lady and know what i wanted to do in life.
my husband married me to fulfill his mom wishes to have an oriental wife and children. his other parents hate the idea and disregard me as family, they think why would he buy a wife where he can find one on his own, with his own race at that.
up to this day, they are all shock knowing we are still together after what we've been through.
some answerer relay good answer, i feel they been there, done that, experience part of it or have encountered similarly in some kind of way in their life. i know most women, once they get here, they change drastically. some remain the same way as they are before. some show their true color, some pretend, some honest, some is for real.
our daughter been married now with the similar process but they met through internet, much faster, free service, high technology and fingertip click away. so who will say its not a good thing? maybe other who experience rough and sad life who doesn't learn from it, they might, but for me and my family, its an experience that i can tell anyone anytime of day. load of excitement, commitment and hard work, i did earn my respect and history being one catalog lady..
2006-12-02 17:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by salome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is this, but it may not be what is actually the case.
The mail order brides are looking for a way out of their country and will do it by any means possible.
The guys who marry them have a lot of guts marrying someone they barely know.
2006-12-02 10:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My ex always threatened me with them saying he was going to divorce me for a mail order bride because they understand that the man is the king of the castle and those women will do what they are told. He is still thinking about it I guess, I have not seen any bride at all at his place. That ought to tell you something about him, I can't judge the women, I have not walked in their shoes.
2006-12-02 14:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's a choice they both make to get something they want....myself I'd never do it....
I know younger men who would get one...and I know older men who wouldn't...
It's a choice I guess everybody is different their goals, life experiences. I don't think it's my place to judge as I haven't lived it... I haven't been lonely and I haven't been desperate to escape something really bad so what would I know?
2006-12-02 11:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by lol_des 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that some people want better lives and others want someone to fullfill their lives. It is an odd process, but it works for some of them.
2006-12-02 11:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by bb4pb510 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Live and let live. Plain and simple. It's not fair to judge others for what they do. It might not be what you personally would do, but that does not mean the arrangement doesn't work well for them.
2006-12-02 11:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by Rhianna 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its an easy way out for a man to get married!!
2006-12-02 10:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The women want to leave their country anyway they can, the men must be desperate to trust them.
2006-12-02 10:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I know of a man who done this and they are very happy..To each his own I guess.
2006-12-02 11:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think that the men are sick and the women are doing what they can to try and support their family
2006-12-02 10:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by lizzyb 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋