Is it worth divorcing my wife over?

Question

Sex is an important part of me and my wife's life. It really is a time for us to come together and enjoy each other in the midst of our busy lives. I don't have a problem with quantity of sex but rather quality of sex. What I mean is, that quite frequently my wife "passes gas" during sex. This significantly dimishes the quality of our sex life and our relationship as a whole. Is this enough to consider divorcing my wife over. I mean if I'm not happy and she is not happy, why should this relationship go on. She thinks I'm being "nick picky" and I think she is being gross. Needless to say, this marriage is getting rocky. What should I do?

Answer 1

When I orgasm, I have issues controlling those muscles. Even if you try and hold it, you can't do so all the time if the orgasm is really good. I have never done more than farting, but that is due to my paranoia with having EVERYTHING cleaned out before sex, mainly because anal is the bomb.

She could go to her doctor for ideas on flatulence if it really bothers you. I think you would be killing a good relationship because of flatulence and you might be stretching for a reason to leave because you aren't happy. Go to a marriage counselor and maybe you can see a better light of eachother at the end of the day.

Answer 2

Well the thing is, if you really want your marriage to work... try to find out the "root" of the problem. I'm not trying to be funny, but what is your wife eating before you have sex? Simply said, the farting issue could be easily resolved if you just get to the root of the problem. I don't necessarily feel as if you are being nit picky and/or superficial about your wife passing gas when you are having sex. I mean, I'm thinking that farting would take any reasonable man out of the mood. The sound, the smell and the whole act of just farting during your intimate moments with her is enough to make any man just say forget it. And you know, its not even about a comfort level that she may have with you... its just plain gross and she has to know that it makes you look at her in a totally different light.

I have a co-worker that farts on a continous basis at work and he thinks its funny. The first time he did so... I laughed and ignored it. The second and third time... and so and so I started to feel that it was no longer funny... because we work in a professional environment and I just began to lose all respect for him. Its weird but I just started to see him in a different light... as a different type a person. Now he completely grosses me out. I have no respect for him. Although my co-workers farting is purposeful I think there still is some comparison. Maybe deep inside she doesn't give a f*ck what you may think about her farting. Maybe she's to the point that consciously or even subconsciously she's trying to gross you out on purpose... maybe she's trying to see how much will you take before you say "I'm outta here."

So, basically the aforementioned is a comparison to your wife. You are becoming grossed out by your wife and that shouldn't happen. And really, the fartng is just plain ridiculous. I mean, how do you tell your friends without them laughing that your wife is farter during sex? You just can't without them laughing and looking at your wife like she's a dirty and smelly dish towel that needs to be thrown out.

If you love her, which I'm sure you do because if you didn't you wouldn't be posting such a question.. please get to the root of what the problem. Pay close attention to what she eats before you guys are intimate. Or maybe you should pay close attention to the sexual position you are in when she passes gas.

Oh, this can so be resolved. Its up to you if you want that to happen. I can't even imagine a guy divorcing a wife because she farts during sex... I'm so sure it goes deeper than that. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Wow, you have a wife who is giving you all the sex you want and that is a bad thing because you have put her is such a feel good state that she completely let's herself go? What was the issue again?

Seriously, check your positions. Are holding her legs too far back she may need to pass gas to make herself more comfortable. Sounds like you two are communicating about the what and not the why.

Divorce shouldn't even be in your vocabulary over this...

Answer 4

Your wife isn't showing you much respect in the bedroom thats for sure. I can understand an "accident" but this sounds like it happens a lot. I don't think passing gas while your making love is the real problem. It goes deeper than that. Get some marraige counseling and get to the root of the problem. You will see that the "air will clear" after talking about it.

Answer 5

I think it may have to do where the pressure is occuring most. Everyone passes gas at least ONCE in their sex lives (or almost). Try having her switch up her diet to less gasous foods, drink more water and see if that helps. If not, they have things for "outbursts" at your local walgreens. Flatulance can be a sign of a troubled tummy- if it is too overwhelming, maybe she should consult her dr.

But the answer to your question is no. I am sure she doesnt mean to do it and I am pretty sure she is embarrased by it- especially if you have pointed it out. Queefing can happen as well, but that happens when air hits the "area".

Talk it out- but no you shouldnt get a divorce.... there are PLENTY of ways to have intercourse... try easing up on the pressure and see if that helps too...

Answer 6

I think it's really sad that you would share such intimate "details" with everyone here about your wife. No wonder neither of you is "happy"!

Marriage should be based on love and respect, obviously you don't "respect" anyone. If you would actually consider "divorcing" your wife over something as "trivial", maybe you don't really love her after all.

You could use some outside help, why not find a professional marriage counselor? Good luck.

Answer 7

I don't think you really want to divorce your wife over this (trust me, the grass is never greener...). If you've never been divorced before you probably wouldn't understand what I mean but there will ALWAYS be something you'd love to change or wish was different about that other person. Talk to your wife and let her know how this makes you feel. I know it's sometimes hard to express but it's really workable. Give it a try.

Answer 8

Well,to me, that seems a trivial thing to divorce over and I don't wish to seem to be funky to you. However, it is a good and great thing that you are trying to address this situation and that you want help; but it could also be that she cannot help herself in the act; not to get personal, but I do know that during the act, folks have been known to pass gas from both ends if you get my drift and that cannot be helped. If you pray, do that and then let her know how you feel about this. Let her know that you respect your vows and wish to be faithful to her thereby having good sex. The most important thing to consider also is, is this worth divorcing my mate over? I hope you get what you need here and proceed with caution. Peace.

Answer 9

I can't believe you would even consider divorce over such a trivial thing. Get some scented candles and light them when you are engaging in your favorite activity. If that doesn't do it, spread a little vicks under your nose or chew a couple of altoids. That will scent up you sex life. You might even give your wife a bit of thrill if you engage in oral sex. Believe me she will love the stimulating effect of the mint and, you, my highly sensitive nasal one, can breathe deeply of the minted air as is passes through your mouth. Gas is gas, we all have it like belly buttons. Go and try something more creative and less expensive to solve your problem.

Answer 10

I think you are just looking for a way out of your marriage and if this is the best you can do, forget it. She may have a medical problem. If it were you, would you want her to divorce you over something you possibly could not help?