Its been a month now we been broken up.?

Question

We been together for an year and few month. We both were in love and really cared for each other. We were having a big problem we couldn't solve. It was him living with an ex and other ppl. (they went out decades ago) however, It drove me to the point to get overly jealous and was snooping around and triggered my trust issues. He even pushed me once. This isnt no win-loose situation. Things happen for a reason and we dont have any control over.

I feel so sad that things happened. Towards the end, we both werent unhappy. So, he ended the relationship. I wish i could change things to make it better.. I learn from this relationship to change myself to be a better person. im not blaming me or him for the things that happened.

Now, im feeling okay but still sad.Im finding thngs to do to keep myself busy now. We talked a lil too over the weeks but last time i spoke to him was online on wed morning and then he stopped talking.

Should i give him/ I some time n space?

Answer 1

Honestly, the whole "space" thing happens when it's over. There is usually something wrong when communication gets cut abruptly such as the other person is seeing someone and doesn't want to confront you. You can always break the silence and hope to get the truth.

If you ask someone day to day about the specific subject of a relationship than maybe you shouldn't talk about it. There isn't a reason to not be able to say hi every now and than. If you get snoopy you probably are sensing something isn't right in the others body language, speaking, patterns.

I learned to be very good at sensing when people were lying to me. You have to really think about when someone starts displaying different postures, vocal tone, eye contact. Really excited and jumpy, overly happy, avoidance, easily angered. All could mean justification or concealment's of lies.

If anyone moves in with an ex that should be considered inappropriate if you are in relationship someone else. No matter how many years ago.

Screw breaking that guys trust he pushed you. Unless you were attacking or denying him right to leave it was unnecessary. You do have to respect personal boundaries but, if something is going on you will find out. People cannot hide forever. Either you'll find out or they'll come up with a cheap reason to break up with you.

To each person a different circumstance only you can know what's right for you when it comes to relationships. Go with your gut. If all else fails there's always other people out there.

Answer 2

You snooped into his things which broke the trust .
You are a good person by changing to the better.
that is a good start for you
what ever he does is his business but hopefully he will
be a better person also .
space , Patience, understanding. let these come together .
And maybe the two of you will again also..

Answer 3

Yes,space is a problem solver.You are doing the right thing by occupying your time and trying to not think about the situation.Give it a few days and then try to talk to him if you still want to.Tell him how you feel and see what happens from there.Trust me if it is meant to be it is meant to be.The last thing you want to do is pester the person and push them farther away.Good luck hun.

Answer 4

Yes. Learn from your mistakes & move on! I to would be suspscious (not jealous) of his ex living together with other people. What kind of freak show is that? Girl, follow your first mind and give him plenty of breathing room; what's done in the dark will eventually come to light! You'll be glad you did. TRUST.

Answer 5

Maybe you should leave him alone you are coming across as desperate. thats probably why he doesn't wanna talk. probably been out sh*gging as many women as he can as well. b*stards!!

Answer 6

IT IS GOOD THAT YOU CHANGED TO BE A BETTER PERSON
MAYBE HE WILL TO
GOOD LUCK