I left my husaband of 8 yrs two months ago, I married too young and fell out of love. I have secretly had feelings for my boss. When he heard I had seperated from my husband he told me that he was in the process of ending his marriage as well, and wanted us to be together when this is all over with. Studid me slept with him, because I have feelings for him. It has been 2 months and he says he is trying to leave her, and I really care for him, should I hang in there?
2006-12-02 09:40:45 · 13 answers · asked by Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. In fact, if you could find a different job that would be good. This is completely unethical on your part.
2006-12-02 09:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are very vulnerable at this time, be careful. You just left your husband two months ago, it's a little soon to be looking for another man to replace him. You need to take some time for yourself and work through your own issues.
Your boss took advantage of you and your situation. It was a really bad idea to have sex with him. Just because he's telling you he's "trying to leave her", doesn't mean he is. If he respected you, he wouldn't ask you to be the "other woman" in his life. Don't let yourself get dragged into an affair with him, he's "married". There's no reason for you to "hang" in there, he's not available (financially, legally or emotionally)!
You may have married too young, but the fact remains that you just left your husband, you aren't even divorced yet. You need to resolve those issues so you don't repeat the same mistakes. It's no wonder you're "confused", you aren't even out of your marriage and you are jumping head first into another huge "mess"! The last thing you need is someone who is telling you he's "going to leave his wife" - it's very rare that they do!
Best of luck to you, I think you're going to need it.
2006-12-02 10:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, but sounds like he took advantage of you. He found out you were in a vulnerable state, and since he's your boss, he took advantage of you. Not very professional, and definately not nice.
If he wants to leave his wife, he will, but I don't think you should have anything to do with him until he finalizes his divorce.
Good luck! While I hope this works out for you, I think you need to tread very carefully. Don't become "the other woman". His wife doesn't deserve it, and you DEFINATELY don't!
2006-12-02 09:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. He's married, and yes, you did indeed make a mistake. Don't make another with him. Sure you care.... However, until he is a free man, he is just not available, even emotionally, and you sure don't want to take up time with a guy who is a "mugwomper" --- his mug on one side and his rump on the other. Stories abound of that kind of thing, and it is a recipe for a heartbreak. So, no, hon, don't hang in there. Start seeing other guys. And for sure, don't see him, and tell him why.....he's "not available".
2006-12-02 10:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think U should have waited a little longer before hopping in the sack with him.
He knew you were vulnerable and took advantage of you ... he must have known you care for him. You must have let him know in some way, before the divorce. Since you were so easy to get, now he doesn't have to be in such a rush.
Now he has his cake and can eat it too ... to his heart's content.
2006-12-02 09:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by GRNeyzNYC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My two cents, without knowing you or him, if he wanted to leave her, he would have. He's stringing you along. Let him know that you're done. If he leaves his wife, maybe you two can start things up then. But as long as he is still with her, everything is off. Good luck!
2006-12-02 09:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by leaptad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is up to u. but how can u trust a man that cheated on his wife? i think u got in over ur head. bow out and move on with ur new life. if there is something there it will be there after he is divorced. lots of other men out there. explore ur possibilities before u settle.
2006-12-02 10:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by purple_butterfly_freak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Live up to your name and be a "Lady" Do not be aa "home wrecker" I bet if you called his wife she would be surprised that he is telling you they are splitting. Do not talk to him again or see him. This is wrong. You are still married too.
2006-12-02 10:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by -------- 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
give it a couple of months... these things take time. Sometimes too much time. You will know when you've reached your "waiting" limit. Good Luck!
2006-12-02 09:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by bobndew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely feel for him then hang in there and tell him to just end it. If he doesn't then he is just using you and no one deserves that. Tell him if he really feels for you then he will end it instantly. Good luck. Later....L.G.
2006-12-02 09:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by michael a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋