I went out with him again after we broke up,i asked him to take his clothes he just kind of laughed it off,saying oh did i leave that much.now once again i feel its officially over,and it would be maybe to him, if his clothes were'nt here.Now i think hes leaving them for a reason.what do you think?
2006-12-02 09:22:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, send him a certified letter telling him you have packed the items up and they will be at (where you choose, like a porch friends, etc.) on a specific date. Also tell him if he chooses to not get them they will be donated. Make sure you get a return receipt that you sent him this letter (and of course keep a copy of it) so he can't come back later and try to sue you for them.
2006-12-02 15:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by ladygwen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree there is a strong possibility that he's playing a game on you, trying to keep you in his life in some way. Don't let him get away with it. If you are determined to cut your ties with him, then tell him in no uncertain terms to either come & get his stuff, NOW or consider it to be DONATED to some local charity.
Another alternative to that would be to drop it off at the doorstep of his house if you know where that is.
This almost sounds like it could turn out to be an episode on Judge Judy if you aren't carefull. If you don't cover your tracks in a responsible way, he may end up suing you in small claims court for the value of the clothes, if you aren't able to prove that you took reasonable care to notify him that his clothes were being disposed of if he didn't pick them up.
Maybe send a registered letter, that says he's got (eg: 30 days) to pick up the clothes etc, or he can consider them gone for good. If he received the letter, & you have proof, then he can't say he didn't know you were going to do throw his stuff away. Be careful too, because he could claim that amongst his stuff left there was a gold Rolex, or something, who knows. Just cover your tracks as best you can.
All I know for sure is that as long as his stuff is there, he's got a reason to come around & be in your life. If that isn't what you want, then get rid of his stuff as quickly as you can, & in a responsible a manner as you can manage.
Good Luck.
2006-12-02 17:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pack up all his crap and put it by the end of the road, then immediatly after placing it outside call him and tell him it's there if he wants it and to come get it before someone else takes it. When he shows up keep your door locked, if he knocks on the door to talk, open a window and talk from there. That way if he tries anything u are fully covered by the cops. Even tho u may think he wont over react, or what have you..it's the most painless, easiest, and safest way...yea i think he has other intentions
2006-12-02 17:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by clueless_idiot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, there are a few things you could do
1. pack it up nicely and deliver it to his new address
2. have a bunch of friends over, drink lots of beer and have a bon fire out back
3. donate the clothes to a homeless shelter and write it off of your taxes when you file in a few months
4. throw them away in the garbage
5. take them to his work, in a box, put his name on it but make sure a cat or dog leaves a few 'presents' on them first.
(some of those answers WERE inmature... but they are options! LOL)
2006-12-02 17:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He may be leaving his stuff as a way "back in."
If you're really, truly finished with the relationship, box the stuff up and mail it back to him.
If you think that you'd like to keep the door open... then you could still box the stuff up... but put it in a closet. (that way, you'll make him work a little harder)
2006-12-02 17:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am going through the same thing! were you married, or just living together? do you have any children? what are your feelings towards him? if you feel that its really over, then tell him once more to come for his clothes, and if he does`nt come, take them to him, or put them in store somewhere
2006-12-02 17:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by fad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack his stuff nice and neat and leave it at his place. If it's not much he's not missing it give it to a homeless shelter.
2006-12-02 17:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by concerned-aunt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call him/leave a message/send him a registered letter,,,telling him that you are giving 24 hours(or longer,your choice,,less is better) to pick up his stuff,,after that it belongs to good will or the garbage
2006-12-02 17:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by kkahn9dodge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think so too obviosly he doesnt wanna ;eave so make him get rid of hi **** and though it out, burn it, something
2006-12-02 17:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by cynsational 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋