my parents wont let me hang out with my best friend they think she is a bad influence shes not, and it wouldnt rub off on me anyway how can i convince them to hang out with her
2006-12-02 08:48:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry that your parents are so controlling - unfortunently there is very little you can do at this stage. Be friends with the girl at school if you think you are mature enough to make your own decisions. But also respect your parent's decision outside of school. Hopefully, you'll get chances to prove your maturity soon enough so they'll start letting you choose your own friends.
2006-12-02 08:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by hobbes84k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny you should say your friend isn't a bad influence and your parents think differ.... You forgot to tell us all some important issues like why do your parents feel your BF is a bad influence. This is very important to know...
I will tell you though, if your parents feel this way then your BF and you have given them reason to feel this. you have to remember your parents love you very much and they want to protect you from the world... Yes sometimes they are wrong but for the most part they are correct in their feels....
Parents were kids too so they know what you are going through and they know and see all the signs that are given off by your BF that is making them feel the BF is a bad influence...
If you want your parents to accept your BF then you need to sit down with them and ask them why they feel the way they are and then you and your BF try to explain your feelings to them and then maybe they will understand you and you will understand them.
Your parents will always be there for you and your BF, well they do come and go.
2006-12-02 08:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by garzmaxx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents know, they always do. Your parents love you and they are just looking out for your best interest. I'd say if this is bothering you greatly that you can't even hang out with your best friend then the thing to do is to sit both your parents down and have a conversation about it. Explain to them what you want and let them explain their reasons to you. If you all listen to each other and work this out maybe a compromise can be reached. Talking is always the best place to start.
2006-12-02 08:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT’S only human to want to be understood. And if your parents are critical of—or uninterested in—things you love or think are important, you can feel very frustrated.
How, then, can you find out how your parents feel? By “keeping an eye, not in personal interest upon just your own matters, but also in personal interest upon those of the others.” (Philippians 2:4) Try asking your mother what she was like as a teenager. What were her feelings, her goals? “Chances are,” said ’Teen magazine, “that if she feels that you’re interested in, and aware of the reasons for some of her feelings, she’ll try to be more aware of yours.” The same would no doubt be true of your father. But if there is any bad treat in her you hanging with stop because they don't want you to be hurt.
2006-12-02 08:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by philip d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 01:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by kwiatkowski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem.
my son hangs around with bad influences occasionally. these are the times when he does things he could be arrested for.
when he hangs around with his responsible friends, he is less entertained but less likely to be arrested.
that's life, sadly. try to get as many friends as poss. so u can have a good time and not be hideously corrupted.
msn is fantastic. try to get a group of about 10-15 of u and have a good giggle. my son does and he loves it. and because he loves it, so do i !!!
try to meet new people of ur age who will excite u and be a true friend to u.
2006-12-02 08:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't they set the rules in their home and as long as you live there you need to abide by those rules. If you don't like them you can go to court, become emancipated, get a job, find your own place to live, pay the rent and all of the bills that come with it, purchase your own car, purchase your own car insurance...get your own health insurance or pay for a doctor out of your own pocket etc. Because once you're emancipated your parents are no longer responsible for taking care of you.
2006-12-02 08:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents love you more than anyone else, and only want whats good for you. Listen to them.
There is an old proverb in spanish that says:"Show me who your friends are and I wiil show you who you are".
She will have an influence on you.
Your parents have fed you, clothed you, taken care of you when you were sick and truly love you.
As long as you live with them you should obey them.
2006-12-02 08:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you understand how they feel, and let them know that you really do appreciate that they are just trying to keep you safe...they love you, and that is a wonderful thing to have two parents around for you to watch your back. But paranoia is common among parents so do that and keep reasuring them...persistance and letting them know you understand their opinion will eventually get you what you want.
2006-12-02 08:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by STY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're parents are just trying to look out for you. I know that makes no sense to you right now, but it's true. Perhaps they would let her hang out with you while you are both at your house - where they can moniter you?
2006-12-02 08:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by jessi g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋