My best friend for 12 years contacted me 2 months ago. we haven't talked for almost 2 years after I set her up with one of my guy friends. she called to apologize and let me know how she felt of our fallout. she was honest that she talked bad about me behind my back. should i talk to her again??? she wants to have coffee...
2006-12-02 08:36:33 · 14 answers · asked by lala15 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A friendship of 12 years is something rare these days. Disputes arise, feelings get hurt, ways of life change. In my personal opinion, it would be a shame to not at least hear her out. Get together for coffee - talk about everything to clear the air. If you both can get past the topic that has bothered you both for two years, then you've really accomplished something. Move forward and I hope you two can again be best friends.
2006-12-02 08:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How important was your relationship with her? Do you believe she's sincere in her apology? If this was an important relationship in your life, don't you owe it to both you and her to at least meet for coffee? If things are too awkward or the things that made you friends in the first place are gone, you don't have to take up the friendship. If you meet, at least you'll know for sure how you feel.
2006-12-02 16:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A talk between the two of you would not be bad. The fact she apologized is huge. Most people never do that. As far as starting the friendship up again, I would judge it by this.....
As long as you have peace in your heart preceed but if you feel no peace or confusion then leave it alone.
2006-12-02 16:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Shawna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is willing to take ths time out and be honest with you, give her a second chance. She obviously feels guilty about what she is doing and I think you should tell her that you would like to have the coffee and find out whats going ona dn why our friendship is REALLY taking it's toll.
2006-12-02 16:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have coffee - you have nothing to lose. She aplogized and wants to be your friend. If you feel animosity towards here during or after the coffee let her know that you can't get over the problems and go your separate ways.
2006-12-02 16:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say if the friendship is worth keeping fight for it!!! Friends always have their ups and downs!! Hold on to your friendship!!! Think about it was the fall out that bad was it bad enough to give up all the fun times yall have had????
2006-12-02 17:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by POOH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. after 12 yrs. you can give her the time of one cup of coffee. it must've been hard for her to call you and admit her mistakes. go with an open mind and good luck.
2006-12-02 16:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, absolutely
she's sorry, let bygones be bygones
If you have a relationship of 12 years invested don't lose that...it may not get tight like it used to be again but still...
she's a friend
2006-12-02 16:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by nackawicbean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and have a cup of coffee with her, it can do no more harm than she has already caused, and she may apologize and try to mend the fence and be your friend again... you never know ;)
2006-12-02 17:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by charis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have you got to lose? Talk to her.
Doesn't sound like a major problem.
2006-12-02 16:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋