how can i earn my parents trust back?

Question

my dad doesnt trust me and he wants to.. how can i prove to him he can? so he can unground me.

i know not to lie anymore.. be a lil more specific please?

the reason is cuz i snuck out and got caught

Answer 1

Being a teenager is really hard. You're trying out new stuff, brain wants to be an adult, hormones keep gettin in the way and making you act like a kid.


Just because you're grounded, doesn't mean they don't trust you in the entirety. They're just ticked at whatever it is you did.

If you just want to get out of the grounding so you can do something, then think about how sincere you're being.

Talk to him about the why's of what you did, the circumstances etc. He remembers being a teen at one time too.

And take your grounding on the chin. What is it...a week or two? Just wait it out. And be the best person you can be in the meantime.

Answer 2

Well for starters it be nice if you were doing it to gain his trust back because you know it's the right thing to do not because you seem to only care about being ungrounded.But i recommend just waitting it out and talking to him as person to person and perhaps clean your room up nice and help out around the house to show him you knew you were wrong and you mean well.Also if you haven't done this by now I recommended just simply saying dad I knew I was wrong for doing whatever it was and say your sorry then just walk away.But when you do that you better mean it.Keep total eye contact when you do.Hope this helps and good luck with your problem.Also whatever it is you did dont do it again.Learn from your mistakes.(update from your comments) if you snuck out and got caught being grounded was the nice way to handle it i would have handled it in a different way,but nevertheless sneaking around even if its to go outside is not a good thing to do.Try asking him to go out next time instead of being sneaky about it.That breaks any parents trust period.But as a parent we are very forgiving but might just take some time in doing it but we need to know it wont happen again.

Answer 3

Serve your 'time' with good grace. Put extra effort into returning home promptly from school and such more promptly. Undertake extra jobs around the home without being asked..... trust is so hard to re-establish and needs to be earnt. You are making a positive start by thinking about it. Good for you. Make your dad proud.

Answer 4

stick in the boundaries he sets, and if you disagree try to have an adult discussion with him about how you can re-negotiate the boundaries to ones you can work in.

You will only earn his trust when he feels you listen to him,and if he asks you to do something you will be reliable and he can trust you to do what he asks.

You could also discuss with him whether you can negotiate to shorten your grounded time. Don't know how long your grounded for, but if it is a week or so,maybe you could offer to do more chores if he lessens the time you have to stay in. You could offer to stay home on Saturday night, to show that you are willing to try and listen and be good.

Show willing, show you will try to listen, and show him you can be trusted to act in a grown up way. That's what he wants to see.

Answer 5

The hardest thing in the world to do is gain your parents trust, I am 33 years old and my parents still dont trust me, lol! Well, I think you need to have a heart to heart with your Dad, ask him if he will have a chat with you, be grown up, make sure you turn TV off and sit facing your Dad, keep eye contact with your Dad and say to him, "Dad, I know I have been stupid and you are disappointed in me, but I want you to know I hate disappointing you, I want you to be proud of me and I want you to be able to trust me, so how can I earn your trust? You may still be grounded but it wont be forever and then its your chance to prove to your Dad that you can be trusted. Mums and Dads do care and love their kids very much, we have to be cruel to be kind, I am sure your Dad loves you to bits and only wants whats best for you, I know, you dont see it when your young, I never! Honestly though, you know your Dad best and I am sure he will come round about the grounding soon, us parents are not as stubborn as you kids and give in easier, oopps, dont tell my kids that will you? lol. Chin up chick. loadsa love to you and your Dad xxx

Answer 6

Only time helps sweetie. Take your punishment like a women and that will show him you are mature and can be trusted again. Dont beg to be ungrounded, or else it will definatly backfire.

Answer 7

Assuming you've apologized already, just adhere to the terms of the punishment, and be as polite, responsible and respectful as you can. After awhile, you could approach your dad about ending the grounding time (perhaps) a bit ahead of time, given all that you've been doing to show that you are sincere. If he says yes, great, if he says no, just accept it.

Answer 8

Aha, you sneaky little kid! lol Sounds like my son. I always want him to actually understand what the point of grounding him is, not just so he can be unpunished, but so he can learn something. That's what your dad probably wants. Not for you to be sorry cause you got caught, but to be sorry because he wants you to understand. If you don't get this, chances are you will still be punished.

Answer 9

You need to show him that you are responsible. What did you do in order for him to not trust you? Sit down with him and ask him point blank what you can do to make him trust you again. This will show him that you have some maturity.

Answer 10

the best way to earn your parents trust back is to just to what they say. if you're still grounded then don't try to fight it since you did wrong. it will be a long time before they fully trust you, but you have to show that you are worthy of their trust and they will be able to put their trust back in you.