Okay im young and transgender, and some of my family and friends really dont like it...some of my lesbian friends say that i should just be a butch and leave it at that..i mean ive tried that but its not me..im not a lesbian, im a BOY. i mean..i dont know what to do about this. my family keeps throwing that im a female in my face..when really i dont think that is true. I mean im a guy...if i were to fall into a lable it would be a Bisexual Male. not even a bisexual male, just EXTREMELY QUEER! i dont know what to do..how do i deal with this?...
2006-12-02 08:14:51 · 6 answers · asked by Shawn C 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Shawn,
Thanks for your question. This must be a very difficult situation for you right now - know there are many people out there who support you and are cheering you on right now as you try to become more and more the AUTHENTIC you.
It sounds like you have already realized that the person who knows you the most is YOU. Nobody else can tell you who you are and what you feel. And that's ok. While your friends and family might think they are being supportive of you by telling you "who you are" - what you need most now is simply to know that they love you and how much you matter to them.
As for your own journey, let me share with you a few places you can explore:
http://www.makemeaboy.org/ - this is a great site with personal experiences of youth. Very well done.
http://www.transproud.com/index.html - from outproud.com, a specific selection of resources for persons who are transgendered.
Please check those links out. Know there is support out there for you! You are not alone!
Good luck.
2006-12-02 12:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it is very difficult on your family to accept your decision, because not having experienced it themselves they just do not understand. I think you need to make it clear to them that THIS IS WHO YOU ARE. Your family may not agree with how you choose to live your life, but they will always love you, and at a certain point they will have to just accept you for who you are. You are still the same person they know and love - that has not changed. You have simply made a lifestyle choice. Talk with them about this, tell them this is the decision you have made in order to be a happy person, and that if you deny yourself this happiness you will not be complete. They cannot get inside your head and fully comprehend why you have made this decision, so do your best to be open and honest with them. Ultimately, they will always love you, it will just take some time.
2006-12-02 16:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by lop 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You definitely have to find a support group that will help you get through this. It is way too much of a burden for you to deal with, when everyone is trying to push their agenda on you. Is there a gay organization where you live? Contact them, and talk to someone that understands your difficulties.
2006-12-02 16:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by niko 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think, that you need to not care what other people think. And I know it's hard because they're your family and friends but I don't think you like to live with everyone hating you because your different! I think you should just find people who like you for you. And I am sorry that your family doesn't like it. But if your happy with it that's all that matters. This may not have helped but I think you should accept yourself for you and find other people that like you for you also!
2006-12-02 16:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from them, find a new support network. Do what you want to be happy. If they want to build a relationship with you, then they can stop being hateful and build a relationship with the real you.
2006-12-03 01:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a local support group for yourself and refer your family to PFLAG. it will help them to understand who you are
2006-12-02 16:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by Ron N 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋